{"id":316,"date":"2018-11-09T18:26:54","date_gmt":"2018-11-10T02:26:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/?p=316"},"modified":"2018-11-09T18:31:39","modified_gmt":"2018-11-10T02:31:39","slug":"response-to-sarah-light-from-many-lamps-part-6","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/2018\/11\/09\/response-to-sarah-light-from-many-lamps-part-6\/","title":{"rendered":"Response to Sarah: Light from Many Lamps (Part 6)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sarah, wow, thank you so much for your refreshing and challenging\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/sjasmins\/2018\/11\/02\/light-from-many-lamps-2\/\">post<\/a> about Confucius&#8217; statement,<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\"><strong>&#8220;What you do not wish done to yourself, do not do to others.&#8221; <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Your application of this statement to leadership was brilliant; that being a leader means proactively and respectfully giving constructive feedback, even when it is difficult. Currently, I have several situations where I need to submit constructive and respectful feedback, and as a leader I have a history of avoiding this. Though I am growing in this area, I still struggle to be confrontational and if given the option, I avoid giving constructive feedback.\u00a0 I also experience a lot of anxiety before giving feedback, especially if I know the individual is more &#8220;sensitive&#8221; or there have been complaints they are unaware of.<\/p>\n<p>Sarah, two statements that really struck me from your blog were:<\/p>\n<p>1) &#8220;If I was in this person&#8217;s shoes, how would I want the situation to be handled?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>2) &#8220;It may seem like you are doing someone a favour by hiding the truth about their subpar performance, or complaints received, but the truth is, you are doing that person a disservice. You are denying them an opportunity to grow, and reinforcing a false idealization about their performance.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>These two statements were challenging and very applicable to my situation. Thank you for &#8220;respectfully confronting&#8221; me as a leader with your wisdom and your example of how you tell the truth to individuals in your organization.<\/p>\n<p>Personally, I like to be an &#8220;encouraging&#8221; and &#8220;empowering&#8221; leader that helps people towards growth, but I recognize though encouragement is vital, constructive and honest feedback is just as important! You can encourage someone towards a &#8220;false idealization&#8221; about their performance and leave them stunted in their growth.<\/p>\n<p>Though I find it difficult, I will look forward to these impending feedback times, as being honest is the most caring thing to do. I will trust God to lead me to speak with both &#8220;truth and love&#8221; (Ephesians 4:15) and approach the situation with humility, knowing I am far from perfect.<\/p>\n<p><strong>My question is: When it comes to complaints or issues with a team member, at what point do you recognize and suggest that their current work situation is not best for an individual?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\"><strong>References<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Watson, L.E. (1951).\u00a0<em>Light from Many Lamps<\/em>. New York: Simon and Schuster.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sarah, wow, thank you so much for your refreshing and challenging\u00a0post about Confucius&#8217; statement, &#8220;What you do not wish done to yourself, do not do to others.&#8221; Your application of this statement to leadership was brilliant; that being a leader means proactively and respectfully giving constructive feedback, even when it is difficult. Currently, I have [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":445,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,13,19],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-316","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ldrs500","category-light-from-many-lamps","category-unit-7","post-preview"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/316","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/445"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=316"}],"version-history":[{"count":14,"href":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/316\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":333,"href":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/316\/revisions\/333"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=316"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=316"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/create.twu.ca\/monicagrace\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=316"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}