Matt eloquently articulated Wolfe’s conclusion on happiness whereby true happiness is found through serving something greater than oneself. The premise is that people should shift to an outward focus rather than an inward focus. Wolfe argues that this is how one discovers true peace and happiness.
I like how Matt drew the connection between self-awareness and how it dovetails with humility. One must be aware of one’s own beliefs, character, and interests, before understanding humility. Self-awareness demands an individual to understand that the ego is attempting to protect the personal identity and does not serve as a function to bring happiness. The ego fights for the need to be right. Humility and the ego cannot live in harmony, as humility requires selflessness. “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom” (Proverbs 11:2). As this verse states, humility brings wisdom, and with wisdom a deep understanding that happiness is only found in service and looking outward. Humility does not mean that one has low self-confidence or self worth, but rather it allows others to be the centre of attention. Humility allows an individual to be grateful towards the work, accomplishments, and characteristics of another human being. In the process, true happiness is found because “Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself” (Watson, 1951: p.15).
Humility is the paradox of leadership as it was not a trait that was traditionally associated with leadership. Humility and confidence can exist together because they communicate both vulnerability and strength to followers. I found this blog post to be very enlightening and enjoyed Matt’s insights. Looking forward to reading more posts Matt!
Christina
Watson, L.E. (1951). Light from Many Lamps. New York, NY: Simon and Schuster.