Unit 5, Learning Activity 2

Spears (2010), identified ten characteristics of effective and caring leaders. Three actions a leader should take when coordinating a group project are listening, persuasion and commitment to growth of people.

In a group dynamic there are individuals that are more dominant than others and if given the opportunity to take over, might very well do so. In a group dynamic it is important that all team members feel heard and included or the risk is some team members may not choose to participate. I’ve been on projects where there is a team member that doesn’t speak but then has something very profound to say that might not have been shared unless the team leaders was astute enough to ask. When team members feel their ideas are valued they will likely feel more compelled to participate and share ideas.

Another characteristic that is of value in a group setting in persuasion. Again certain individuals if given the chance will dominate and take over a group project. There will also be situations whereby team members may disagree on a topic or direction. An effective leader is able to listen to all sides and gain consensus as a group on how to move forward. More so, an effective leader is able to make both parties feel valued and heard. Productivity on projects at times risk delays if participants feel their contributions are not valued.

The third quality of an effective leader in a group setting is commitment to growth of people. As an organization grows its important for succession planning to have future leaders ready to take on and lead projects. An effective leader will recognize an employee that is emerging as a leader and is developing their skills. A strong leader will recognize these individuals within a group and allow them to take on a stronger role, perhaps even leading the group. Knowing when to step in/out will build confidence in the employee and allow an organization to grow in capacity. It’s a very humbling approach and in my experience some of the best leaders display a great deal of confidence and security in their roles that they don’t need to feel threatened by new and emerging leaders.

In leading projects I see the value of a project charter in identified roles and responsibilities. What happens though when a team falls off the rails and a new project lead is required. Can a team really ever recover from this type of situation?

Spears, Larry C. (2010) Character and Servant Leadership: Ten Characteristics of Effective,Caring Leaders. The Journal of Virtues & Leadership, Vol. 1 Iss. 1, 2010, 25-30.

LDRS 500 Unit 5 Learning Activity 1

Two critical functions of team effectiveness are performance (task accomplishment) and development (team maintenance). Performance refers to the quality of the outcomes of the team’s work. Did the team accomplish its goals and objectives in a quality manner? Development refers to the cohesiveness of the team and the ability of the team members to satisfy their own needs while working effectively with other team members (Nadler, 1998).

While working on a project at a museum, my office constructed a collaborative team to accomplish the development of an indigenous space. The team members were highly motivated in completing the task and creating a presence in the traditional territory. Team members could not wait for it to be completed and to be shown to the nation and other stakeholder. Team members includes a cultural educator, construction manager, creative designer, project manager and traditional knowledge keeper. The team had experience in developing a previous museum space that was also successful and so this project would be building off the last experience. Characteristics in the group that created team excellence were (Larson & LaFasto, 1989) a clear and elevating goal, competent team members, unified commitment, collaborative climate, standard of excellence, external support and recognition as well as principled leadership. My role in the group was as a project manager which was to keep the team members on task and on budget. In the end we developed a beautiful space that attracted visitors from all over the world.

In my next project example,  I will describe how Principled Leadership allowed my team to achieve an important task of preparing for an impending flood. Principled Leadership is effective team leadership that has been found to consistently relate to the team effectiveness (Zaccaro, Heinen, & Shuffler, 2009). Leadership has been described as the central driver of team effectiveness, influencing the team through four set of processes: cognitive, motivational, effective and coordination (Zaccaro et al., 2001).  Recently my community was at risk of major infrastructure being damaged due to effects of flooding on the Fraser River. We were on a tight timeline to move and pack up an office building as well as sandbag infrastructure that could not be moved. In this case it was very important for me to get in and quickly direct staff, take care of logistical needs and have a future plan in place. I knew what needed to be done and due to my previous experience in emergency management I could see the team was looking to me for direction. There was no time to hesitate in taking on a leadership role.

I first clearly communicated to the staff the seriousness of the situation and the task at hand, who was needed to do what and in how much time there was ( an example of cognitive process). On site I directed staff on tasks to complete and was first and last on site. As soon as I saw someone standing with nothing to do I assigned them a new task.  I knew from my training that these types of situations could be stressful and so in order to manage the situation it is best to keep employees working as well as busy (and example of an affective process). I also got in and equally got my hands dirty so that employees would see the pace of work that was needed (an example of motivational process). I set up an incident command post and based roles and responsibilities on technical expertise. For example the IT staff were assigned to remove the server and ensure all staff were set up to work from home. The construction staff were in charge of the electrical disconnection and so on (an example of a coordination process). In three days our team packed up an office of 25 (including heavy furniture), disconnected electrical, plumbing and data cables, sand bagged two buildings, removed all computers, printers and servers, relocated the server and set up all employees to work remotely. It was truly an amazing accomplishment by all and required all team members to know their role and do so effectively. In the end it was an excellent example of team work and ability to demonstrate our business resiliency.  In an emergency situation things happen quickly. Team performance can be monitored by the outcome however there isn’t time to monitor team development or how cohesively the team is working. In the example I gave during the flood there were two employees not getting along and I had to be quite sharp with both of them and ask them to put their feelings aside and remind them we had an important task at hand. Do you think it is ok in times of emergency to use more aggressive tactics to get employees back on track? Can this lead to negative feelings/resentment or in this case was it an effective way to quickly get control of the situation and perhaps was actually managing the effectiveness of the team?

Larson, C.E., & LasFasto, F.M.J. (1989). Teamwork: What must go right/what can go wrong. Newbury Park, CA: SAGE.

Nadler, D.A. (1998) Executive team effectiveness: teamwork at the top. In D.A. Nadler & J.L. Spencer (Eds.), Executive teams (pp.21-39). San Francisco: Jossey-Bass

Zaccaro, S.J., Heinen, B., & Shuffler, M. (2009). team leadership and team effectiveness. In E. Salas, G.F. Goodwin, & C.S. Burke (Eds.), Team effectiveness in complex organizations: Cross-disciplinary perspective and approaches (pp.81-111). New York: Taylor & Francis Group.

Zaccaro, S.J., Rittman, A.L., & Marks, M.A. (2001). Team leadership. Leadership Quarterly, 12, 451-483.

Situational Leadership, Unit 4, Learning Activity 2

Awareness in Situational Leadership according to Spears (2002), identified Awareness as one of ten characteristics of a servant leader. He describes awareness as “a quality within servant leaders that makes them acutely attuned and receptive to their physical, social and political environments. It includes understanding oneself and the impact one has on others. In comparison, Northouse (2016) describes emotional intelligence as our interplay between our emotions and thinking. It is our ability to understand emotions and apply this understanding to life’s tasks. Goleman (1995, 1998) takes a broader approach and describes emotional intelligence as self-awareness, confidence, self-regulation, conscientiousness, and motivation. Put simply, the difference between Awareness and Emotional intelligence is that awareness is the ability to adapt to what is happening in the outside world such as a community or organization (external influences) while emotional intelligence is how one might respond and evaluate a situation internally within one’s own self (internal influences).

The first person that comes to mind as a servant leader is my current boss leading my company. Tumia is the President of Seyem’ Qwantlen Business Group and has held her position as Councilor for the Kwantlen First Nation since the 1990’s. Tumia graduated from UBC with a law degree and leads the community in lands, business and community services. As Spears (2002) identified 10 characteristics in Greenleaf’s writings, each one speaks to the style of leadership Tumia has with the organization. I’ll describe an example as to how she displays characteristics as a servant leader:

Listening – Tumia has exceptional listening skills. She always allows others to speak, evaluates the information before speaking. Both internally with employees and community members she is a person that people feel comfortable with in trusting her with their concerns.

Empathy – Tumia always shows empathy by sometimes paraphrasing what the other person is telling. She takes the time to acknowledge the persons concerns before jumping in to address the issue or solve the problem. She is also astute enough to know that sometimes people come to see her and just want to be heard. Not everyone is looking for her to solve a problem.

Healing – Tumia is a highly intelligent and competent individual. She has a great deal of knowledge in terms of how to address complex situation and in how to help people overcome personal problems.

Awareness – As a Councilor to the Kwantlen First Nation, Tumia is very culturally aware and is able to stand in two worlds. She understands cultural traditions and respects values that have been taught through generations and at the same time understands that the community’s survival is dependent on change.

Persuasion – Tumia is never know to manipulate others to follow. I am continually amazed at how she handles negotiations or community consultations. She is highly educated and comes across without an agenda. She is able to present the facts so that others can make up their minds for themselves.

Conceptualization – Tumia’s vision for the Seyem’ Qwantlen Business Group and the Kwantlen Nation I consider to be revolutionary. She understands the need for governance, culture, community services and economic development, all serving an equal purpose in order to create a healthy community. In the business group we are taught threw her leadership to take into account how our decisions might impact all facets of a healthy community. This vision is clearly communicated and known to the employees.

Foresight – Tumia is much attuned to the current climate in intergovernmental relationships. She is able to gauge community, government and public interest in any given situation and as a result will adapt accordingly.

Stewardship – Tumia never takes advantage of her leadership position. She is truly there to serve the people of Kwantlen. She has the opportunity to be employed elsewhere for a much higher wage however stays to help her community prosper.

Commitment to growth of the people – Tumia has helped to build amazing capacity with the Kwantlen community and for indigenous people. She supports employee growth, often promoting from within. She also supports employees with the educational goals by ensuring there is support.

Building community – Tumia is changing the face of Kwantlen and setting up future generations to be independent and self-sustaining. She is creating employment and increasing the skills and capacity of its members.

As I’ve observed in watching Tumia, being a servant leader requires a strong commitment toward the betterment of others and putting employees and customer’s needs first. It requires immense discipline. As a team member, and as a person second in command, I would describe myself as more of a transformational leader. Our combination works well with different employees and different situations. As a new and emerging organization and with indigenous employees whom are building capacity, a servant leader is not always the best approach however conversely for the more senior and independent employees, working under a servant leader has been exactly what is needed. I wonder though is it possible to practice being both a servant leader and a transformation leader when the situation requires it? Is there an example of a leader that is able to do both interchangeably effectively?

References

Goleman, D. (1995) Emotional intelligence. New York: Bantam.

Goleman, D. (1998) Working with emotional intelligence. New York: Bantam

Northouse, P. G. (2016). Leadership: Theory and practice. Sage publications.

Spears, L.C. (2002). Tracing the past, present and future of servant-leadership. In L.C. Spears & K. Patterson (Eds), Servant leadership: Developments in theory and research (pp. 11-24). New York: Palgrave Macmillan.

Transformational Leadership Unit 4 – Learning activities

Bass and Riggio (2006) as stated in Northouse (2016) “suggested that transformational leadership’s popularity might be due its emphasis on intrinsic motivation and follower development, which fits the needs of today’s work groups, who want to be inspired and empowered to succeed in times of uncertainty.” Northhouse (2016) said “transformational leadership is a process that changes and transforms people. It is concerned with emotions, values, ethics, standards, and long-term goals. It includes assessing follower’ motives, satisfying their needs, and treating them as full human beings.”

Leaders today are tasked with motivating and inspiring staff and as such, I’ve observed a change in the workforce with employees interested in more than just a pay check. The internet has opened up opportunities and with a large global economy, competition for employees in some fields extends worldwide. Employees are well aware of their options and in many cases want the opportunity to achieve great things. One employee that comes to mind is a gentleman with my organization whom is looking for advancement. He enjoys the autonomy he receives in growing the business as well as the support the company provides him in being a participant in the board of directors for a non-profit organization, relevant to his industry. At the same time he is interested in work-life balance which is why he is content with being an internal entrepreneur for my organization as opposed to going it alone.

In history I see many indigenous leaders as transformational leaders and one such leader that comes to mind is my great, great, great grandad, Grand Chief Wattlekanium. Wattlekanium was situated at a Kwantlen village site in New Westminster when he encountered Simon Fraser’s expedition. It is likely that he heard of movement to the west however may not have encountered people like Simon Fraser in his lifetime. The encounter created all different responses from the Kwantlen people including fear, curiosity and anger. Wattlekanium had the foresight to know that establishing a relationship with the explorers and eventually the Hudson’s Bay Company meant that his people would be safe. He knew if the warriors attacked Simon Fraser and his crew that more explorers would come and likely attack the Kwantlen people. Instead he moved the village site to Fort Langley and leveraged protection from raiding island nations that often took the Kwantlen people as slaves. Later he established a strong trading relationship, taught the settlers how to survive the long cold winters and supported interracial marriages to encourage even stronger dependencies. Considering Kouzes and Posner’s model Kouzes and Posner (1987, 2002), as stated in Northhouse (2016) the model consisted of “five fundamental practices that enable leaders to get extraordinary things accomplished: model the way, inspire a shared vision, challenge the process, enable others to act, and encourage the heart”. Wattlekanium changed history for his people and ensured the survival of future generations. Faced with adversity he chose a peaceful and civil model that his people felt comfortable following. He knew the status quo would not do and so made the best of a difficult situation. The reward for his people meant that they no longer had to live in fear of attack from raiding nations and that they would receive tools or other trading materials that would make life easier. Of course we know the history of what local indigenous people were exposed to including smallpox, loss of lands, and cultural expropriation, all the way up to more recent times with residential schools. Alternatively though, across North America Indigenous communities were being wiped out entirely. Today the Kwantlen people still exist because of the actions of Wattlekanium. Transformational leadership in indigenous communities is necessary as society begins to understand truth and reconciliation. In current media, Squamish Chief, Ian Campbell has included his name on the Mayoral candicy for the City of Vancouver. I wonder, will he be a transformational leader for the City of Vancouver and create a new path for indigenous people?

Photo: James Mulleder/CBC (May 14th, 2018)

References

Bass, B.M., & Riggio, R.E. (2006) Transformational Leadership (2nd ed.) Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum.

James Mulleder/CBC (May 14th, 2018)  http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/squamish-chief-ian-campbell-puts-name-forward-for-vision-vancouver-mayoral-candidacy-1.4661485

Kouzes, J.M., & Posner, B.Z. (1987) The leadership challenge: How to get extraordinary things done in organizations. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass

Peter G. Northouse (2016) Leadership Theory and Practice. Page 161. ISBN 978-1-4833-1753-

During week 4 of LDRS500 I was so taken aback by Part three, 1. Paul Hamilton Hayne’s “This, too, shall pass away” (Watson, Lillian Eichler 1998). As it was intended to be, from the very first time of creation, “a motto wise and true and endlessly enduring, words by which a man could be guided all his life, in every circumstance, no matter what happened” (Watson, Lillian Eichler, 1998). To me this saying speaks to one having patience to get through times of adversity. Some of my strongest mentors display incredible patience both in business and in their personal life. It’s a quality I’ve admired and although I work hard to emulate, I know it’s something I must regularly practice. I recall with my superiors that were really good at what they did, often using time to solve problems, knowing that the next day allowed the opportunity for things to get better. Let me share more about the leadership lesson and how it is relevant in my life.

Since ever I can remember I have had a competitive streak in me, always trying to be top in whatever it is I do. In my younger years this was prevalent as I competed in team sports. I had an undying will to win at all costs. In my career this served me well as I climbed the corporate ladder. I wanted badly to keep going and move up as high as I could until I was humbly knocked down by a change of corporate direction. The new regime believed in ruling with an iron fist and I knew my style would not have success in that type of environment. I knew my choices were to adapt or move on and at the time the economy was not great and so there were not many options. I also knew that if I left I risked moving to another organization that might also have a similar management style. So I thought to myself better the devil you know instead of the devil you don’t. My career took a back seat for a few years as I decided it would be a good time to work on my family. As it turned out my taking a backseat and moving into a new department was an unexpected great decision in my life as it lead me home to my indigenous community. This takes me to the next chapter in my career and so invite you to read on.

Coming home was almost sacra religious. My entire life was starting to make sense. The patience I needed to have in my career was exactly what was needed. I know now when times are difficult, my mentors were right, sometimes time brings answers. My community has taught me so much about adversity and forgiveness, particularly when speaking with our elders, many of whom are residential school survivors. Time has become less relevant as I have learned I am here on this earth to serve the next 7 generations. This is how much time it takes to instill real change and when I count back to the beginning of colonization I am aware that I am the 7th generation here with the purpose of bringing my Kwantlen family to times of prosperity. Change is happening rapidly and with that brings fear. I am amazed at how much I’m able to preserver and instill change for the better despite those wanting to hold me back. I know if my elders can go through the abuses of residential school that I too can be strong, knowing in time things will get better. I believe now that my community is on the right path and one day we will be free from intergenerational trauma, alcoholism, drug addiction and abuse. In the moments where there is pain and words that are meant to hold me back I know tomorrow is a new day. As I lead my community through change we will have our good and bad days but as long as we move forward we will again be a healthy community. For me personally I’m glad I did not change to be a tyrant. I believe my leadership style has served me well in working with new generations that want to feel valued as employees. I’m very thankful I didn’t panic and stayed true to I was as I can see now with time, life can bring you in many different unexpected directions. Some people in my community say my ancestors brought me home. That may be part of it but I also believe when you follow your heart in whatever you do, life brings rewards.

References

Light from many  Lamps, 1998 Lillian Eichler Watson

Peer review of Rank-Talk-Write by Achsahs-springs

Being a lifelong learner in developing critical thinking skills is important and a strength seen in lifetime learners. In the blog Rank-Talk-Write, Archasahs-Springs (May 18, 2018) discusses the idea that in order to be a critical thinker, there is an intelligence to practice (Source: Unit 3 notes). In Coast Salish culture there is no such  word traditionally called Chief. This is a western term imposed on our culture and a way to control communities. Instead we called the leaders of our communities a Seyem. It wasn’t one person that lead communities but there were multiple Seyem’s. These Seyem’s were generally elders in the communities that were life long learners with excellent critical thinking ability. They departed wisdom which often meant the survival of our people. In today’s context, I truly believe there is a need to practice and one day as an elder (hopefully also recognized as a traditional Seyem), depart my learning to future generations.

In the summary sentence #3 Archasahs – Springs (May 18, 2018 chooses there is a responsibility to learn and gain knowledge for the benefit of those I lead (source: nit 3 notes, adapted from Chong 2015) and this will require effort. This section really spoke to me as a leader in my indigenous community. In my office I look at the headstart kids whom one day may come to work for their communities business group. I feel a great sense of responsibility in not letting them or any community members down. I also worry as our elders age as I want them in their lifetime to see better days and know our community will be ok. I feel it is my duty to be the best I can be and accomplish as much as possible in my tenor as a leader in my community. At the same time on a more personal level I want my mom to feel proud to be indigenous and to watch her daughter succeed as well as my daughter to know that anything can be achieved if you put your mind to it. This is why I am back in school as a mature student. I absolutely love how proud my mom is and how neat my daughter thinks it is that I have homework. I know at the same time it’s hard work and do not take that for granted for one second. At the end of the day I know it will all be very rewarding once complete.

 

Critical thinking from the notes references

According to Cahalan (2017) there are 8 ways of knowing how to apply critical thinking through practice. Looking briefly at three of the eight ideas, including Situational Awareness, Creative Awareness and Emotional Attunement, I will provide a summary in the form of how it relates to my employment, for each key idea I’ve chosen. My order of what’s most important I believe is very different as I work for an organization that is not only an economic development entity but also a government. In addition, to further complicate things, most of the people I work with are family.

1st Situational Awareness – a good leader is about knowing how your actions will affect others as well as company goals.

My company was in the middle of a substantial negotiation which would eventually result in a large settlement. Discussions were finally moving in the right way with the expected outcome to have impacts to many future generations to come. At the same time, I had bid on a tender for a small contract and was not feeling right about the process. Eventually I had substantial evidence to demonstrate that things were not in fact fair. After carefully weighing my options, I decided that I did not want to risk the negotiations from having a setback, and so felt it was best to leave things be. In the end we settled and included in the agreement was a clause that spoke about a relationship agreement and ways to handle future grievances. In this situation it was not worth risking a large negotiation for a small short term contract that my company would have the opportunity to look at again in the future.

2nd Creative Awareness – having the ability to see one’s own strengths and weaknesses.

In my organization we are a small group and many with multiple skills that are cross applicable. It can sometimes take creative thinking to determine who would be best to assist in any given situation. In terms of real life experience I am often called on to resolve complex situations however a good leader knows when it’s time to consult with others in order to come to the best decision possible.

3rd Emotional Atonement – don’t try and fix others, examine your own actions

Working for a community that is going through reconciliation has its challenges to say the least. As my organization grows there is a need for outside as well as internal expertise from the community. There is often a push and pull between western ways of managing and our traditional ways of managing. This creates conflict as there are employees that can at times feel like there is some favoritism. In this climate I do my best to treat others as fairly as possible. There is the pull from the community government side to continually give our indigenous members multiple chances without consequence. It’s important to me to lead my organization in a fair way so that all employees feel that they are treated the same. Having said that I understand I cannot change the government influences however this does not stop me from doing my job as an effective leader. Instead I have this internal conflict about doing things the right way. I’ve learned to accept that things are the way they are and I’m not going to be able to change people’s perceptions. I’ve also come to recognize that we are in a time of change which is hard for my people. A good friend as well as a cultural teacher from my community reminds me that a leader is never appreciated until their work is done. I remind myself of this and try not to allow myself to be influenced into making the wrong decision.  I know I have to be patient and accept I cannot change others but that I can be the one to change. I end up being somewhere in the middle in terms of how I manage situations. It may mean I need to ease up a little from how I might normally deal with the situation and at the same time it is going to be a little uncomfortable to my government. I’ve come to recognize that change will happen slowly and as long as we keep moving forward, things are going to be ok.

References

Cahalan, K., Foley, E. and G.S. Mikoski eds. (2017) Integrative knowing and Practical Wisdom in Minding Gaps: Integrating work in theological education. Eugene, OR: Wipf and Stock

 

 

Response to Student post – Unit one, Learning Activity Four

LDRS 500, Unit One, Learning Activity Four, Blog post Two

My thoughts on achieving a healthy balance between leading and managing are really about applying the appropriate tactic based on the situation. As a senior executive in my organization I am expected to make strategic decisions for the organization. I’m also expected to adapt or change directions should the situation warrant it. Conversely there are times when I also must step in as a Manager as I teach some of my subordinates how to apply employee coaching. It’s not something that I set out to balance but as a leader I’m expected to step into any given situation and apply the appropriate response. At times it can also depend on the strength of a Manager or Director that is reporting to me. As a leader I try and encourage them to make decisions and know when to step in. They are all at varying levels of development in their career and so its about adapting to the right situation. Now my situation may  be different as we are not a large organization (160 employees). My former place of employment however had over 2000 employees and so executives at that company did not spend much time in a management role and instead mainly focused on organizational leadership.

Comments on other student blogs – Unit 1 Learning Activity 4

Unit 1 Learning Activity 4

I couldn’t agree more with your point Maddison. I am a Coast Salish, Kwantlen woman and have been taught that traditionally our leaders in our communities were not appointed or voted to their position. A Siem’ was followed because they had leadership qualities that the people trusted. A Siem’ was someone that demonstrated skill with diplomacy, took care of the community and was highly educated in the ways of the world. There were often multiple Siem’s in a community that knew how to work together and looked after the betterment of the community. A Siem was born with the gift of leadership and was nurtured to develop their skills throughout life. In today’s society we appoint or vote for leaders however not all are successful. Thank you for sharing a wonderful blog. Your comment really resonated with me!

Light from many lamps – To find happiness we must seek for it in a focus outside ourselves

To find happiness we must seek for it in a focus outside ourselves (Lillian Eichler Watson pg 11-15 ) The leadership lesson of this anthology is to provide a reminder that if we spend too much time thinking about what makes  us unhappy, instead of actually doing things that make us happy, one will never achieve enlightenment. Consuming negative and selfish thoughts are not productive in the quest for happiness. It’s instead about overcoming our fears and taking action in life to make things better.

An example of this I would like to share is a time when I was at one of the lowest points in my life. My son was just diagnosed with being on the Autism Spectrum. In reality by the time I received the diagnosis it was not at all entirely surprizing. It was actually hearing confirmation that actually devastated me. I went through a brief period of grieving, thinking about all the moments I wouldn’t be able to share with my son. I was also struck with guilt thinking I let my husband and all of the grandparents down. I knew all of their future moments too, that they looked forward to were shattered and I somehow took the responsibility for this as it was me that delivered this child. I shut the world off and was tired of hearing all of the token condolence words from friends and family that in no way was doing anything to make me feel better. It wasn’t until I finally mustered up the strength to get out of bed and go grocery shopping where I had a moment that has impacted me to this day. While I sat at the grocery store in tears in my car, finally alone and able to feel sorry for myself, a car pulled in beside me which was a spot for persons with a disability. It was a mother with her daughter and as I watched her walk to the passenger side, smiling and engaging with her daughter I thought to myself that this was a sign from God. I realized that this mother also had obstacles to deal with and here she is enjoying life, laughing and smiling with her daughter. At that moment I knew that everything was going to be alright. I knew it was my destiny to be there for my son and give him the best possible chance at life. I thought, that can be me if I suck it up and just be a mom to my son. I can be the one smiling and enjoying life too with my child. I decided form then on that I would shed no more tears and instead I was going to take action and deal with the card I was dealt. It was time to get on with life and do everything within my power to be the best mother I could be to my son.

I’m proud to say that my son has made significant improvements with his learning and is getting better every day. I know he will never be cured and he will always require care however I have a plan in place and as a result I know he will always be taken care of, even after I am gone. I have had many happy moments with my son since that date and don’t consider my relationship with my son any different from any other mother/son relationship. It’s not been an easy road but he’s achieved things I never thought possible. I recall my mother-in-law saying that my son was a gift to me because I would do everything in my power to make sure he had a rich and fulfilling life. I knew my leadership skills were exactly what he needed – persistence, dependable, diligent and never willing to give up. I am so thankful every day to be the mother to this amazing little boy. He has taught me so much in life about slowing down and the importance of family and community being there for one another. He is a wonderful and caring human being, with such a pure heart. He is often described as someone that is always happy and smiling and is proof that happiness can be achieved no matter what the situation.

As leaders we are faced with obstacles every day and true leaders persevere and find their way out of problems. Some challenges are harder that others but it really does feel good when we are able to move forward and continue to make the world a better place whether at work, home or in our community.

Lights from many lamps – Lillian Eichler Watson originall published 1952, ISBN 978-0-6716-5250-0