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Response to Achsah’s Springs Unit 4 Blog Post

Unit 4: An Introduction to Research Reports

Thank you so much for sharing! I very much appreciated your  vulnerable and honest reflection of what you experienced this week. It is helpful to know that there are others who are also trying hard to balance family life, work and school. It can feel at times like I’m not doing any of them well because I’m pulled between too many things at any given time.  I am reminded of a reading from our LDRS500 course and Lillian Watson’s (1988)  Light From Many Lamps, where Sir William Osler shares advice about the secret of success. He shared his thoughts with students from Yale in an address he called “A Way of Life”.  He told them “to concentrate on the day’s work, to do what needed to be done to the best of their ability, shutting off the past and the future, living in day tight compartments” (Watson, 1988, p.215).  He went on to say,

The load of tomorrow, added to that of yesterday, carried today makes the strongest falter…. Waste of energy, mental distress, nervous worries dog the steps of a man who is anxious about the future. Shut close, then, the great fore and aft bulkheads, and prepare to cultivate the habit of a life in “day tight compartments!” (Watson, 1988, p. 216)

Dale Carnegie (1948)  refers to this same message in his book How To Stop Worrying and To Start Living and says that when things become overwhelming to place them in day tight compartments. I have found myself doing that a lot this week. My dog has been really ill after surgery and I have been concerned about her along with the enormous costs associated with her care. Between my dog, and all of my other responsibilities including this course, it all began to pile up  as a huge weight. I was reminded of this passage and decided that I was going to tackle one thing at a time by placing each item into day tight compartments. It is very comforting to me to know that we are all on this journey together and that we are present to encourage each other in both the good times and especially through our struggles.  I am grateful that you shared!

To answer the question that you posed…

My closing question is more practical and likely not going to generate much in the way of substantive responses from my fellow students, for which I apologize.  I would like to get an understanding of how my fellow students read and follow qualitative research reports.  I am from a clinical background – the vast majority of research I was exposed to in both of my baccalaureate degrees was quantitative.  I found some of the qualitative articles assigned in both LDRS 500 and LDRS 671 sent my head spinning.  Between trying to keep track of all the acronyms and the multiple hypotheses that kept coming up in the articles I had difficulties following the direction and understanding what I was reading.  Do you have a mental method, or another method of following all of the concepts and hypotheses being introduced?

Your comment made me smile as I am the complete opposite! I don’t enjoy reading the quantitative research reports and much prefer the qualitative ones. Perhaps it’s because of my background in Humanities instead of Science. I can appreciate however, that there are limitations for both kinds of reports and that if somehow they can be combined, they might better meet the needs of all audiences.

Response to Charliemable’s Unit 4 Post

https://create.twu.ca/charliemable/2018/10/12/unit-4-research-reports/

After learning more about the structure of research papers, and demystifying the process does this entice anyone to want to investigate doing some hands-on research and even a PhD?

Like you, I too appreciated the breakdown and demystifying of some of the process by Plano Clark and Creswell (2015).  I am interested in doing some hands on research studies on high school female administrators, and was intrigued by the idea of one day conducting ethnographic research.

As far as PhD’s go, I’m still trying to get through only my second course of my Master’s while juggling and balancing parenthood, career and schoolwork! I tip my hat to those who have earned theirs!

Response to Edenguessi’s Unit 4 Blog Post

https://create.twu.ca/edenguessi/2018/10/12/ldrs-591-flow-unit-4-blog/

Question: How important is the length of the introduction section in relation to its quality?

I appreciated your comment referencing the difficulty you were having discriminating between the topic and the statement of the problem.  I too find the introduction part to be challenging. I continually kept referencing Plano-Clark and Creswell (2015)  as I read through the articles. I especially like the image they have on page 82 that details the topic, the research problem and the purpose by asking specific questions that relate to each section.

Plano Clark & Creswell (2015, p.82)

 

References:

Plano-Clark, V. & Creswell, J. (2015). Understanding research: A consumer’s guide. (2nd Ed.). Boston, MA: Pearson.

Unit 4 Assessment

Part A

There are two main types of research studies that are conducted; quantitative and qualitative.  According to Plano Clark and Creswell (2015), quantitative research “researchers analyze the data using mathematical procedures, including calculating statistics and plotting graphs” (p.66).  Whereas, in qualitative studies, the data consists “of words and pictures, not numbers” (Clark & Creswell, 2015, p. 66).

Article Evaluation:

Link to article: Principles of Servant-Leadership in Community Health Nursing

 

Evaluation of the Statement of the Problem:

Table Evaluation System (Plano Clark & Creswell, 2015, p. 94)

Part B: Evaluation of the Literature Review

Table for Evaluation of the Literature Review (Plano Clark & Creswell, 2015, p. 144)

Part C – Evaluation of the Purpose Statement or Research Question

Table for Evaluation of the Purpose Statement (Plano Clark & Creswell, 2015, p.186)

Part D:

As a consumer of research reports, the most important aspects I need to consider in the introduction section of a high-quality research report are:

  • Is the problem easily identifiable?
  • Is it a real world issue?
  • Is the topic clearly identified?
  • What does the researcher want to do with the data?

This was a great exercise for me, as I can immediately apply it to helping students write simple thesis statements and to helping my students with their own proper citing and paraphrasing (the more I’m learning, the more I can bring back and share).  I have found Plano Clark and Creswell (2015) to be an excellent reference source due to their detailed rubrics.

 

Question for the group:

Did anyone else find it extremely difficult to provide an actual grade of between 0 and 3? At times, I felt like I was the least qualified person to rate someone else’s scholarly paper when I know so little about writing them.  I’m sure you’re not supposed give half marks, but I couldn’t help it! I felt at times like I was either being too generous or too harsh and found myself second guessing my original assessment. This was the complete opposite of how I am in my career. I am very confident in grading my own student’s work and helping them grade their work as well. It might sound weird, but it really becomes a reciprocal event where we learn from each other.

Please note that all of the evaluation tables in this blog post were referenced from Plano Clark and Creswell (2015).

References:

Plano-Clark, V. & Creswell, J. (2015). Understanding research: A consumer’s guide. (2nd Ed.). Boston, MA: Pearson.

Sturm, B. A. (2009). Principles of servant-leadership in community health nursing: Management issues and behaviors discovered in ethnographic research. Home Health Care Management & Practice, 21(2), 82–89. https://ezproxy.student.twu.ca:2420/10.1177/1084822308318187

Response to Shaaz’s Light From Many Lamps: Time The Most Precious of Possessions

Link:

https://create.twu.ca/shaaz/2018/05/27/light-fom-many-lamps-the-most-precious-of-possessions/

Light Fom Many Lamps: The Most Precious Of Possessions

Thank you so much for writing about this! I thoroughly enjoyed reading your post and completely agree with your points. I too loved this story about time being one of our most precious possessions!  Similar to the video that you mention in your blog post, I also love this one entitled The Value of Time.  I show it to my students every year and it also talks about time being like a bank account that credits you a fresh 86,400 seconds each day.  However, every night you lose whatever time you didn’t invest and use wisely.  It carries no balance and allows for no overdraft. You can’t draw from tomorrow and must live in the present. The end of the video is a poem by an unknown author that can be found in Sean Covey’s book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens (1998) that I also share with them entitled “The Value of Time”.

The Value of Time

To realize the value of ONE YEAR, ask a student who failed a grade.
To realize the value of ONE MONTH, ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby.
To realize the value of ONE WEEK, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a person who missed the train.
To realize the value of ONE SECOND, ask a person who just avoided an accident.
To realize the value of ONE MILLISECOND, ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics.

This poem is a wonderful opportunity to bring people together while also talking about the importance of time. Students are able to make a lot of personal connections to this poem.  For example, a student of mine last year could deeply relate to the value of time because his mom was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and each second that he had with his mom was a gift of time that he preciously guarded. She passed away this summer and he wouldn’t trade those moments he spent with his mom for anything. Another student had an older sibling who had failed grade 12 and had to repeat the entire year and watch his friends graduate without him.  My teaching partner the same year gave birth to her baby very prematurely and the kids knew the dangers of premature labour and prayed hard for her little one to be okay. The baby is now thriving!  I also share with students my own experiences with time. Time was not on my side as I raced to try and get to the hospital before my Dad passed away, ending up arriving only just moments after he died and not being able to say goodbye and tell him that I loved him one more time. This always gets students thinking about the last time they told their parents/siblings that they loved them,  thanked them or said sorry. We all take those words for granted thinking that we will have more time to say those things and we put them off for another day, another time due to pride, anger or ignorance. Time was also not on my Dad’s side as he waited for a lung transplant. I’ll never forget  seeing his transplant pager sitting next to his bed in the hospital, a painful reminder that time waits for no man.  As the poem suggests, everyone has a story to share when it comes to time, the joys and the struggles. Depending on where we are in our life story and in our journeys, each part of time means something different to us. Students learn to respect the real meaning of time not just for themselves but what it means to others as well.

What I tell my students and my kids is that I have learned to appreciate time like never before. Time truly is a blessing and a gift. I am grateful for  each year, each month, each week, each day, each hour, each second and even milliseconds that God has granted me and my loved ones. I don’t take time for granted ever.

Thank you so much for posting about this, it is such a good reminder to all of us to reach out to those we care about and tell them what they mean to us, to fix the wrongs that we have made, to spend time with those we love.  The clock is ticking… and time waits for no man. What are you going to do with your 86,400 seconds?

 

Servant Leadership

Servant Leadership: The Ultimate Leadership Goal

“Do you as a leader serve others? Do those you serve grow as persons; do they, while being served, become healthier, wiser, freer, more autonomous, more likely themselves to become servants?” (Greenleaf, 1970, p. 15 as quoted by Northouse, 2019, p.228)

Dirk van Dierendonck in his article “Servant Leadership: A Review and Synthesis” (2011), states that servant leadership is exactly what the name implies, an act of  both serving and leading . Travis Serle and John Barbuto Jr, in their article “Servant Leadership, Hope, and Organizational Virtuousness: A Framework Exploring Positive Micro and Macro Behaviours and Performance Impact” (2011), state that servant leadership is  one of the most positive styles of leadership because it emphasizes service towards others over self-interest and focuses on optimizing individuals strengths in order to build follower development. Smith, Montagno and  Kuzmenko  reiterate this as well in their article “Transformational and Servant Leadership: Content and Contextual Comparisons” (2004), sharing that, “servant leadership views a leader as a servant of his/her followers. It places the interest of followers before the self-interest of a leader, emphasizes personal development and empowerment of followers. The servant leaders is a facilitator for followers to achieve a shared vision”.  They also state that “servant leadership promotes the valuing and development of people, the building of community, the practice of authenticity, the providing of leadership for the good of those led and the sharing of power and status for the common good of each individual, the total organization and those served by the organization”. D. van Dierendonck (2011) quotes Robert Greenleaf, who coined the term servant leadership in 1977, revealing that first and foremost, a “servant leader is genuinely concerned with serving followers.”  John Maxwell in his YouTube video “The 5 Levels of Leadership” (2013), shares that leadership is a verb and not a noun meaning it requires action on the part of the leader.  This is a good reminder, that   intentional action on the part of a leader is required in order to serve others.

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Colleen Barrett from Southwest Airlines, confirmed all of the above points while being interviewed on the topic of Servant Leadership in a 2008 Youtube video.  She shared that she thinks that one of the reasons why she was most successful as a servant leader, was because she is as good a follower as she is a leader. Van Dierendonck (2011) shares that, “Serving and leading become almost exchangeable. Being a servant allows a person to lead; being a leader implies a person serves” (p. 1231). Colleen’s primary goal was the satisfaction of her employees because she believed that if they were happy and fulfilled, they would go the extra mile to ensure that Southwest Airline passengers also felt happy and fulfilled. She addressed the need to bring people together, to try to turn perceived problems into optimistic solutions and the need to treat everyone equally without rank or tiers on a ladder.  She provided hope to not just her employees but also to Southwest customers. Searle and Barbuto (2011) address the power of hope as a mediator of servant leadership and performance stating that, “hope embraces success rather than failure, adaptation rather than becoming obsolete and optimism rather than pessimism. It shifts obstacles to challenges and even when faced with seemingly insurmountable barriers, alternate routes are embraced” (p.113).  Southwest Airlines focused on creating an atmosphere that enabled employees to become the very best that they can.  Colleen throughout her tenure at Southwest Airlines, displayed the ten characteristics of a servant leader as outlined by Northouse in his book  Leadership:Theory and Practice (2019) in that she intentionally listened, displayed empathy, helped heal others, was aware, persuaded others, conceptualized, displayed foresight, showed stewardship, was committed to the growth of people and building Southwest’s community (pp. 229 – 230).

https://www.biography.com/people/mother-teresa-9504160

The ultimate example of servant leadership (besides Jesus) that I can think of, is Mother Teresa. She encompassed all of Northouse’s 10 characteristics listed above and was a true role model of what putting others ahead of self looks like. She dedicated her entire life to serving others, especially those who were less fortunate and through her example inspired others to also make a difference.

Servant leadership differs from emotional intelligence or self awareness in that the focus of servant leadership is on the growth of others, whereas, emotional intelligence and self-awareness focus on the growth of oneself. Servant leadership recognizes the strengths of others and just like John Maxwell (2013) shares, servant leaders know that people are the most appreciable asset of any organization.  Maxwell states that by recognizing people’s strengths and placing them in positions that enable their strengths to be best utilized, servant leaders equip their followers to be better leaders themselves.

Dan Cable (2018) in his article “How Humble Leadership Really Works” published in  Harvard Business Review, states that the best way to help people feel “purposeful, motivated and energized so that they can bring their best selves to work” is to become a servant leader. He states that, “servant leaders view their key role as serving employees as they explore and grow, providing tangible and emotional support as they do so” and that by actively seeking input from others, servant leaders can create a “culture of learning, and an atmosphere that encourages followers to become the very best they can”.

Van Dierendonck (2011) refers to six characteristics of servant leaders:

  1. They empower and develop people
  2. They demonstrate humility
  3. They are authentic and are true to themselves
  4. They understand where people are coming from through interpersonal acceptance
  5. They provide direction  based on “work that is dynamic and tailor made” [similar to Maxwell’s (2013) point about recognizing strengths and acknowledging that “no matter how talented you are, if you are out of position, you ‘ll never reach your true potential”]
  6. They demonstrate stewardship by acting as caretakers and role models for others [Maxwell (2013) also refers to this when he shares that who you are as a leader is who you will attract on your team. It  is important to model what you want because we “attract who we are, not what we want.”]

I especially loved Maxwell’s (2013) question of “What step are you at in your leadership journey?” and where would the people you work with perceive you to be?

Is it…

  1. Level 1 – Positional – Key Word: Rights
  2. Level 2 – Permission – Key Word: Relationships
  3. Level 3 – Production – Key Word: Results
  4. Level 4 – People Development – Key Word: Strengths
  5. Level 5 – Pinnacle – Key Word: Respect

What did you discover about yourself and your servant leadership journey?

 

References:

Barbuto, J.E. and Gottfredson, R.K., (2016, October). Human Capital, The Millennial’s Reign and the Need for Servant Leadership. Journal of Leadership Studies, 59-64.

Barrett, C. (2008). Southwest Airlines’ Colleen Barrett on Servant Leadership. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6TgR95vnM0c

Cable, D. (2018) How Humble Leadership Really Works. Harvard Business Review. Retrieved from   https://hbr.org/2018/04/how-humble-leadership-really-works

Maxwell, J. (2013). The 5 Levels of Leadership. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPwXeg8ThWI

Northouse, P.G. (2016). Leadership: Theory and Practice. Sage Publications.

Searle, T.P. and Barbuto, J.E. (2011). Servant Leadership, Hope, and Organizational Virtuousness: A Framework Exploring Positive Micro and Macro Behaviors and Performance Impact. Journal of Leadership & Organizational Studies 18(1), 107-117.

Smith, B.N., Montagno, R.V. and Kuzmenko, T.N. (2004). Transformational and servant leadership: Content and contextual comparisons. Journal of Leadership and Organizational Studies 10(4), 80-92.

Van Dierendonck, D. (2011). Servant leadership: A review and synthesis. Journal of Management 37(4), 1228-1261

 

 

 

 

 

Unit 4: Transformational Leadership

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There are many people who come to mind who exude transformational leadership qualities. Individuals like Winston Churchill who through his clear vision and his famous speech entitled “We Shall Never Surrender” (video clip of speech here) brought a country together to inspire people to accomplish more than they originally thought possible.

Bill Gates courtesy of twitter.com

Bill Gates, Microsoft inventor, who not only created opportunities for his employees to be innovative and grow, he also built trust with his followers and modelled philanthropy through the creation of the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation.

I cannot even begin to compare to the individuals listed above and their accomplishments, however, on a much smaller scale, the chapter on Transformational Leadership (Northouse, 2019), is essentially describing my vocation. Transformational leaders “may be especially effective in environments where followers need to focus on learning, development, and mastering job related tasks” (Northouse, p.173).

I would like to share the following examples that I incorporate into my teaching practice as a transformational leader.

Teaching and the 4 I’s  & Kouzes and Posner’s Five Fundamental Practices as referred to by Northouse (2019, pp 169-171 and pp 176-177):

Idealized Influence:  As a teacher, I try really hard to act as a “strong role model” for students and to ensure that my students know that I have “high standards of moral and ethical conduct and can be counted on to do the right thing”(Northouse, p.169). It is important for my students to understand the difference between right and wrong and to learn how to act accordingly. Mulla and Krishnan in their 2011 article “Transformational Leadership: Do the Morals Matter and Do the Follower’s Moral’s Change?” addressed this by stating that there are 4 parts to moral development. Moral sensitivity (knowing what the moral issue is), moral judgement (developing a plan to deal with the issue), moral motivation (the pros and cons of each plan and knowing which plan to pursue), moral character implementation (following through with the plan of action).   I also know that genuine respect is earned with students, and I do my best to gain their trust. This trust and respect is a two way street. It is important to recognize that transformational leadership is dually shared by both leader and follower. “Transformational leadership is not the sole responsibility of a leader, but rather emerges from the interplay between leaders and followers” (Northouse, p.179).

Inspirational Motivation/Model the Way/Inspire a Shared Vision: I have high expectations for all of my students and communicate this clearly, failure is not an option.  Transformational leadership “moves followers to accomplish more than what is usually expected of them” (Northouse, p. 172). This applies personally,  socially and academically. I provide my students with a clear vision of the future state of our classroom. Sharing this vision really is “simple, understandable, beneficial and energy creating” (p.175). Students genuinely support the vision because it helps them feel empowered “because they feel they are a significant dimension of a worthwhile enterprise” (Bennis & Nanus, 2007, pp. 90-91).  I tell my students that we are like a family when we are together and because of that, we need to look out for each other and for those who we might not know yet but who attend our school.  Students really do become “motivated to transcend their own self-interests for the good of the group” (Northouse, p. 172).

Intellectual Stimulation/Challenge The Process: As part of the curriculum expectations, I try to provide opportunities for students to be “creative, innovative and to challenge their own beliefs and values” (Northouse, p.171). It is essential that I promote both critical and creative thinking skills so that students can learn how to think for themselves and be successful problem solvers.  We want our students to be “willing to innovate, grow, and improve” and “to take risks and learn from their mistakes to make things better”. (Northouse, p. 176). One way in particular that teachers have the biggest impact on their students is when they provide real life, authentic challenges. Students accomplish more and are intrinsically motivated when they find meaning in their work. Mohammed, Fernado, & Caputi, 2013 as quoted by Northouse (2019) state, “Transformational leaders are most likely to have a positive impact on followers when followers identify with or find meaning in their work” (p.172).

Individualized Consideration/Enable Others to Act/Encourage the Heart: I provide a “supportive climate” and “listen carefully” to the needs of my students (Northouse, p.171). I am not just an academic teacher, I also take on the role of life advisor, coach, cheerleader or counsellor depending upon the need. I “build trust with others and promote collaboration,” as well as “listen closely to diverse points of view, treating others with dignity and respect” (Northouse, p.177).  According to Mulla and Krishnan (2011), “empathy is critical to leaders in understanding the needs of followers” (p.131).  My role doesn’t end after my lesson is taught, but rather, I spend time “treating each student in a caring and unique way” as I try to assist my students in becoming “fully actualized” (Northouse, p.171).  To some students, I give “strong affiliation” as they are self-starters, to others, I may give “specific directives with a high degree of structure” (p.171).  As a transformational leader, I try to “create an environment where people can feel good about their work and how it contributes to the greater community” (p.177).  I provide “praise for jobs well done” and am very “attentive to this need” through the use of “authentic celebrations” to “show appreciation and encouragement to others” (p.177).

In summary, transformational leadership focuses on inspiring followers to “accomplish great things by focusing on building trust, understanding and adapting to the needs and motives of followers” (Northouse, p.192). Smith, Montagno and Kuzmenko  in their article “Transformational and Servant Leadership: Content and Contextual Comparisons” (2004), sum up transformational leadership as “when a leader inspires followers to share a vision, empowering them to achieve the vision, and provides the resource necessary for developing their personal potential” (p.80).   This is definitely the role of an educator; to build trust, to model and help develop moral values, to listen and be empathetic, to adapt to the needs of the students and to empower them by providing them with the resources necessary to achieve more than they ever thought possible!

On a side note, do you think that the MLQ questionnaire alone is a valid and reliable indicator of effective Transformational Leadership?  What are your thoughts on this?

 

References:

Mulla, Z.R. and Krishnan, V.R. (2011). Transformational leadership: Do the leader’s morals matter and do the follower’s morals change? Journal of Human Values 17(2), 129-143

Northouse, P. G. (2016). Leadership: Theory and practice, Seventh Edition. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications. ISBN 971452203409

Smith, B.N., Montagno, R.V. and Kuzmenko, T.N. (2004). Transformational and servant leadership: Content and contextual comparisons. Journal of Leadership and Organizational Studies 10(4), 80-92

 

 

 

Response to Achsah’s Springs “Blessed Is He Who Has Found His Work”

“Blessed is He Who Has Found His Work” – Light From Many Lamps Assignment 2

 

Once again, I loved reading your post! Thank you for sharing your story and how sometimes the path we start out on isn’t the one we eventually end up on. I think it is important for us to reassure our children and graduating students that not only is it okay to change direction from time to time, it is all a part of our journey to find our true calling. A lot of my Grade 12’s genuinely have no idea what it is they want to do, not because they are unmotivated, there are just so many opportunities available they have a fear of “settling” or missing out on something even better. This fear of the unknown causes great anxiety and can even be crippling at times.

I love my job, without a doubt, it is my life’s vocation, my calling. Even when I factor in the really tough days, there is no place that I would rather be. Your questions are so relevant and we all need reminders that our work really is a blessing.   What do you think we could do to help others who are feeling disillusioned and bitter about their work, realize what a blessing it really is?

Thank you for all that you do to help others. It is inspiring to me!

Response to Charlie Mable’s Courage and the Conquest of Fear

Light From Many Lamps – Courage and the Conquest of Fear

Another beautifully written and inspiring post! I was very touched by your story about your mom and the note that you discovered written in her bible. As a mom myself, I can’t even imagine what she must have been experiencing, and how much she must have been praying for a miracle for the sake of her 4 young children. What good advice your mom shared about focusing on getting through an hour at a time, or a day at a time … by creating “day tight compartments” as a coping mechanism in times of crisis and tragedy. This is a strategy that is also taught in Dale Carnegie courses and something that I have also used when stressful situations can feel completely overwhelming.

Here is a small section shared from the website: http://www.dalecarnegiewaynj.com/2011/05/27/reduce-worry-by-living-in-‘day-tight-compartments’/
“One of Dale Carnegie’s principles for overcoming worry is to live in day-tight compartments. This term was first coined by Sir William Osler when he encountered this life-changing quote from Thomas Carlisle, “It is not our goal to see what lies dimly in the distance but to do what clearly lies at hand.”
Rather than look to the past or more than 24 hours ahead of the present Sir Osler focused the tasks at hand. Often times, our thoughts are dominated by regrets and mistakes of the past, or anxiety about upcoming events. We are unable to perform what needs must be done at the moment because we are trapped in the past or future. Dale Carnegie said, “If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osler did: Live in “day-tight compartments.” Don’t stew about the futures. Just live each day until bedtime” (http://www.dalecarnegiewaynj.com/2011/05/27/reduce-worry-by-living-in-‘day-tight-compartments).

The words “this too shall pass” are powerfully encouraging and uplifting, especially when shared by people who have lived through turmoil and hardships themselves and are courageous survivors. The words seem to take on more meaning when delivered by those who have experienced the truth of them.

I especially enjoyed what you said about wanting to be there for others who are struggling and to intentionally “hold space” for them. What a beautiful thing to want to do! I’ve been very lucky to have had others “hold space” for me and it is one of the best gifts that I have ever received. I too, would love to be able to pay that kindness forward.

Thanks again for sharing yet another courageous and inspiring post!

Light From Many Lamps: Failure is not the falling down, but the staying down.

There is always another chance.  This thing that we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.  – Mary Pickford (Watson, 1988, p.156)

As human beings we are going to make mistakes, we are going to fall down. It is one hundred percent inevitably going to happen. Leaders are also human beings, so it goes without saying that leaders are also going to fail and make mistakes. It is simply only a matter of time.  It’s what we choose to do once we fall down, that can define a true leader.

The importance of what we as leaders choose to do after we fall down is reiterated by  Glen Llopis in his Forbes article “4 Reasons Great Leaders Admit Their Mistakes” (July 23, 2015),  “As any great leader will tell you, they have made many mistakes along the way. They will admit that it was the collective insight from bad decisions that taught them invaluable lessons – and how to see opportunities in everything and anticipate the unexpected more quickly. Successful leaders are transparent enough with themselves and others to admit their wrong doings so that those around them can also benefit from their learnings. They call this wisdom and many leaders lack it – because they are too proud to recognize mistakes as valuable learning moments for themselves and others.”

Mary Pickford was a true leader in that she was able to recognize her mistakes as valuable learning moments for herself and others. Her story and words of encouragement touched me on many levels.  She was a woman who on the surface appeared like she had it all going on (a woman of great beauty, talent and dazzling success).  Unbeknownst to many though, she had faced unhappiness and disillusionment, heartache and disappointments, yet… “she had come through every experience serene and composed, radiantly sure of herself and the road ahead” (Watson, 1988, p. 157).

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Mary’s lesson touched me so much that I shared it with my 17 year old son tonight who is going through a hard time.  I wasn’t sure if he would be receptive to it at first but he slowly and silently read the paragraph I showed him. My eyes filled with tears watching him quietly absorb the words,  nodding as understanding dawned over him.  Mary’s words are so powerful and encouraging for those who have made mistakes or lost their way.  “Today is a new day… if you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you… and supposing you have tried and failed again and again, you may have a fresh start any moment you choose” (Watson, 1988, p. 158).

I thought of my daughter whose applications for acceptance into a nursing program were just rejected for another year in a row. I thought of my students who are struggling with drug addictions and mental health issues.  I thought of my many mistakes both as a mom and as a teacher and was comforted by Mary’s words, “You are never beaten unless you give up” (Watson, 1988, p. 158).

I will try and emulate Mary Pickford by sharing my stories with my students and my children as both a human being and a leader. I will admit my mistakes so that others can benefit from my learnings.

Thanks to Mary Pickford, I have found a new quote to share with my students. I am going to cut it out in large letters and put it on my classroom wall.  Her message is one that bears repeating and needs to be shared.

“Today is a new day. You will get out of it just what you put into it… If you have made mistakes, even serious mistakes, there is always another chance for you. And supposing you have tried and failed again and again, you may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.” ~ Mary Pickford

 

Eichler Watson, L.E. (1988). Light from Many Lamps, (1st Fireside Edition). New York, NY: Simon & Schuster, Inc.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/glennllopis/2015/07/23/4-reasons-great-leaders-admit-their-mistakes/#46fc410f4628

 

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