Response to Sarah – Light from Many Lamps – Part 4

Hello Sarah

I really appreciate the way your prepared your response drawing upon some very strong intuition, insight, pragmatism and specific tools you use within your professional and personal life when facing suffocating demands and expectations. I echo your struggle and short tolerance for the “I am too busy syndrome”; but alas, I fall into the same habit when overwhelmed sometimes. In describing his own burdens, James Gordon Gilkey (1951) provides some water to a dry palate suggesting that he was able to stay calm and poised “by refusing to let everything rush in on him at once” (p. 220). Like you, I use lists to compartmentalize and prioritize tasks to achieve a scope of pace that (1) – keeps me measured in terms of my accessibility and volume of output helping others, and (2) – forces free time to reflect and recharge as a means to reduce anxiety, fear and tension. Ultimately, this passage and your commentary triggered some thoughts when considering the importance of setting realistic expectations for yourself and those that you lead. In my experience, if the leader does not communicate reasonable expectations for time and task management, followers will either take advantage of the opportunity to do less, or overwork themselves trying to meet perceived expectations left by the leadership vacuum.

Matt

Gilkey, J. G. (1951). You want to gain emotional poise? In L. E. Watson, Light from Many Lamps (pp. 219-222). New York: Simon & Schuster.

Response to Norm – Light from Many Lamps – Part 4

Hello Norm

A good synopsis with some important reflections as it relates to leadership even though the passage does not make it necessarily clear and obvious what the leadership lesson could be. When discussing “constructive controversy” as a leader skillset, I believe you accurately described what I have personally learned in terms of knowing when to introduce or remove a state of tension between two individuals, or in a group. You mentioned the release of energy, generation of good will and depth, which can be accomplished through discussion as part of this tension (like that experienced in marriage), which indeed, keeps the soil of growth churning with fresh nutrients (ideas). The sense of well-being or happiness has such a broad range of expression, that it the context of my own personal leadership, happiness exists within the pursuit of happiness. In other words, if my influence somehow manifests happiness in others, especially in the context of goal achievement or personal growth, it validates my own sense of meaning and satisfaction within this pursuit. Our group meetings typically enjoy this tension, with deliberate checks on each other’s’ biases and respectful challenge of opinions leaving everyone with elevated spirits from enjoying a stake in the decision-making process.

Matt

Light from Many Lamps – Part Four

In an ever-shrinking world filled with increasing demands and distractions, affording yourself the means to enjoy solitude and the art of contemplation is fast becoming a rare luxury. Regardless of the approach, style, technique or strategy, leading others through a culture that abhors living a minimalistic or simplified life is not an enterprise for the faint-hearted, but requires a “mature attitude towards success” and a strong will to stand firm through processes of development that sometimes require patience, time and nourishment (Thoreau, 1951, p. 238). In his passage titled Our life…, Henry David Thoreau (1951) reflects on his decision to experiment with simplicity, prompting the reader to consider how life could be so much more meaningful and deliberate in caring for others when choosing to live, work and think alongside what he terms as “Spartan simplicity” (p. 233). What Thoreau discovers through living a simplistic life, is that by integrating solitude and reflection into the life of a leader, it enhances clarity, improves cognition and strengthens their capacity to be alone, and in response to it, better equipped to lead.

In order to exercise one’s state of mind, allowing it the freedom to become grounded as means to enhance perspective is not what some would call introversion, or worse, self-imposed isolation. Solitude and life simplification are what Thoreau (1951) describes as opportunities to improve the “soul’s estate”, growing closer to understanding life’s basic, but elusive truths that give it meaning (p. 233). Unlike what Dan B. Allender (1996) states in Leading with a Limp, when solitude is sometimes used as a vehicle to hide and “guard against hurt”; leaders need to reserve moments to reflect and recharge so that they can more effectively lead others (p. 116). Through his emphatic expression, Thoreau is saying that we as leaders, need to abstain from succumbing to a reality that suggests we should fill every available moment and space to the point of “enslavement”, and instead, supplant it with more simplicity as a means to be more emotionally and mentally prepared to execute their very best in decision making and influence.

Finding moments of solitude in an overly-connected work environment can be difficult these days; however, the relevance of this lesson speaks to the choices we make and what measure of intentionality we apply towards achieving those goals. Apart from time in prayer and reflection, I try to keep a journal which captures both daily events and the measure and sense of my emotional state. In addition to the cognitive benefits that solitude offers, the practice of journaling helps form perspective, aids decision-making and in being organized, expands the time available as a means to consider future actions and the needs of others on my team. As an accomplished scholar in his time, Thoreau was clearly outside the norm with his decision to experiment with solitude. Nevertheless, his experience teaches us to keep our burdens light, enjoying every moment in itself, and through it, every opportunity to use it to benefit the lives of those we lead.

Matt

Allender, D. B. (2006). Leading with a limp. Colorado Springs, Colorado: Waterbrook Press.

Thoreau, H. D. (1951). Our life is frittered away by detail… simplify, simplify! In L. E. Watson, Light from Many Lamps (pp. 231-238). New York: Simon & Schuster.

Blog Post Two

When finding ways to create a culture of inclusion in the workplace, the obvious risk for most organizations occurs in the absence of consistent and mindful stewardship. Reason being because bias and prejudice takes hold, leaving a promising vision consigned to either a toothless policy directive, hiring guideline, or pie chart, categorizing diversity for a run-of-the-mill human resources audit. Most organizations are good at creating a culture of success, but why does the research surrounding gender biases indicate that gender stereotypes continue to be “easily and automatically activated” even with policies in place (Northouse, 2016, p. 404)? I believe that the chief responsibility in promoting a sense of uniqueness and belonging falls upon both the organization and its executive leadership; however, creating a “culture” requires day-to-day practical applications, grassroots initiatives and the means to measure its effectiveness. Unfortunately, women still face more obstacles than men in the workplace; therefore, leaders need to synchronize their desires with the needs of women together in an environment using common terms of inclusivity to foster recognition and belonging through “a shared understanding and language” (Nugent, Pollack, & Travis, 2016, p. 7).

Unfortunately, no workplace is one hundred percent immune from bias, aloofness and apathy, but there are some practical ways to recognize the uniqueness of women and their positive influence within the organization. Most certainly as it relates to my own workplace, we regularly need reminders in terms of how we can adopt better mechanisms to recognize and grow inclusivity. During our meetings, we discuss problems and solutions equally within the group; however, we need to do a better job in reinforcing contributions made by our female members, recognizing their observations and ideas by assigning visible credit directly to each one. Honesty loves to engage with humility; therefore, apart from reflecting upon my own bias and ego, seeking feedback in regards to my own leadership and its effectiveness within the context of our organization communicates my willingness to grow a culture of fairness and equity.

Recognition is another great way for an organization or an individual to connect their desire in support of inclusivity alongside a specific event; however, creating a lasting culture of belonging where women regularly feel “welcomed and valued” as part of the workplace, its groups and collegial activities requires a broader plan of action (Nugent, Pollack, & Travis, 2016, p. 2). In my own workplace, we often experience a more robust debate; however atypical, we generate a faster path towards consensus when we focus on helping each other through the understanding. For both men or women, a sense of belonging inspires loyalty, creativity and a deeper connection to organizational goals and objectives; however, by openly sharing a vision for inclusion of women, it sets the tone for everyone moving forward. Ultimately, those that you lead are watching you very closely; therefore, know yourself and your objectives, leaving no doubt that you abhor exclusivity and reflect your commitment to inclusivity in your actions at all times.

Matt

Northouse, P. G. (2016). Leadership: theory and practice (Seventh ed.). Los Angeles: Sage Publications.

Nugent, J. S., Pollack, A., & Travis, D. J. (2016). The day-to-day experiences of workplace inclusion and exclusion. Retrieved November 2018, from https://www.catalyst.org/system/files/the_day_to_day_experiences_of_workplace_inclusion_and_exclusion.pdf

Blog Post One

In the book titled Leadership, Peter G. Northouse (2016) presents three case studies at the end of chapter 15 which provide situational aspects to some of the most common challenges female leaders confront in the workplace. Even though “the predicament of female leaders has improved significantly in recent decades”, the old metaphor glass ceiling (used to express an ethereal barrier), still exists, yet considered today to be more of a labyrinth when conveying today’s obstacles and challenges that women still face even after they have earned the right to be considered for elite leadership positions (p. 398). What should be considered an advantage to an organization in terms of employee stability, commitment, and loyalty, some employers, such as the one managing Marina Soslow, still consider pregnancy to be a negative consequence in the workplace.

As senior managing director, Marina brings exceptional capital to her position via ten years of experience, loyalty, a devotion to self-improvement via academia, honesty and most importantly, the maturity and foresight to develop a plan to address any issues and the solutions related to work distribution during her absence. Marina wants to win promotion to an executive position, and is more than qualified; however, she experiences an underlying prejudice from her division head, Roy Bond, when he responds to her pregnancy announcement with “I knew this was going to happen sooner or later; it always does” (Northouse, 2016, p. 415). Rather than demonstrating his degree of immaturity and incompetence, Roy should have congratulated Marina on her news, followed up by re-assurance, support and expression of gratitude for her maturity in preparing a plan for him in advance.

Perhaps a combination of poor training and lack of resources led to Roy’s response. Or even worse, the organization may not have established the proper provisions for development and guidance for women in Marina’s position. There can be a myriad of organizational reasons for negligence, but since Roy is Marina’s leader, he should set aside any bias and become the actionable medium between the organization and Marina regardless if precedent had already been set before. Outside the organization’s policies, leaders can embrace this challenge in two ways – through greater understanding and intentional adoption of a more transformational style of leadership. Research and honest discussion will broaden one’s comprehension and will grow the leader’s empathy, while “being considerate and supportive” builds trust and is foundational to one’s leadership effectiveness (Northouse, 2016, p. 408). Ultimately, unexpected changes can make anyone feel vulnerable; but as a leader, you should never work to subvert your followers by amplifying their sense of vulnerability at the hand of your own insecurity.

Matt

Northouse, P. G. (2016). Leadership: theory and practice (Seventh ed.). Los Angeles: Sage Publications.