Monica Grace

"They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of His splendour"-Isaiah 61:3

I hope you are inspired by my leadership story about “Finding My Voice!”

I think there are many young women out there who can relate to my story of believing lies about themselves and being “held back” by lack of confidence and fear. I know men struggle with this too, but for women research shows it is a more prevalent issue and there are additional societal pressures for women to “be liked” and “conform” to certain expectations.

To read more on this issue, I would encourage anyone, both man or woman, to read the book Lean in: Women, work and the will to lead by Sheryl Sandberg.

“Seeing the Whole Picture”-Light from Many Lamps

I am currently in the midst of several personal and work challenges, and I found reading Robert Browning’s excerpt in Part 9 to be a reminder of how a leader needs to “look at the whole picture.” Browning states,

“Live and learn, he advises the young man. Use the gifts God gave you, and make the most of your life. But remember that youth shows but half, that God’s perfect plan includes the whole of life. See all–see the whole design–and put your complete trust in God” (Watson, 1951, p. 274).

The phrases, “see all–see the whole design” and “put your complete trust in God” stand out for me in leadership currently (Watson, 1951, p. 274). Particularly, in understanding the bigger picture and having patience for situations, people and myself. Personally, I have found it easy to judge my “success” as a leader, based on circumstances. My tendency is to judge my success on how others around me are doing and/or the effectiveness of my team and ministry. Though there is something to be said about seeing the tangible effects of leadership and judging success on that; sometimes circumstances just are what they are and seeing positive change takes time. In these instances, I think it is so important to have a long-term perspective as a leader, as Browning suggests.

Currently, I am in a time where the ministry organization I am involved with and my team members are walking through many changes. Some of these changes are things like consolidating teams and leaving an area of ministry that we have been in for many years. These sort of changes have also brought about a lot of personal refinement for team members and myself, as well as challenging circumstances.

I do see some tangible effects of my leadership through this process, but to be honest at the moment it would be easy to get discouraged in looking at the situation currently. Through all this, God has been reminding me almost exactly as Browning quoted to “see the whole design” and to trust Him with everything (Watson, 1951, p. 274). I am thankful for one of my team members who recently asked me this question: “How do you not let your circumstances define who you are?”

She asked me this to encourage me that she really appreciates my leadership and that I inspire her, and not to let my circumstances make me believe lies about who I am and my leadership abilities. I so appreciated her speaking this truth into my life. It helped give me a perspective, because to be honest, I was getting pretty discouraged looking at everything as it currently was.

Another quote from Browning also stands out is,

 “A man’s value is not measured by the years he has lived, or even the work he has done. A man’s value is measured by the character he has molded” (Watson, 1951, pp. 271-272). 

I have been learning through this process not to find my value in the work I have done, but rather measuring value by how my own character and the character of those around me is being shaped through these difficulties. I also am learning to know my value in that I am a child of God, chosen, loved and valuable to Him; that nothing circumstantially in my life, will affect or take away from that value, even mistakes I make or have made as a leader.

I am thankful for the ways God is teaching me confidence, perseverance, patience and trust in Him through multiple avenues; people speaking into my life and Robert Brownings writings.

Monica

 

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References

Watson, L.E. (1951). Light from Many Lamps. New York: Simon and Schuster.

Unit 10-Course Learnings

This course has been a very formative experience for me, it was challenging to balance everything I had going on in my personal life and ministry, as there were some unexpected things that came up. I am thankful for how my participation in this course, while leading out in a ministry, forced me prioritize my time and helped sharpen me. I have noticed that I lead better when I have enough time to think strategically about the ministry; this course gave me space, opportunity and time to think and analyze. My “Thought” score on my Birkman is very high and I can see how I am more effective, when I carve out space in my schedule to process, strategize and plan. Two course learnings that impacted my practice were: “Unit 4” and “Unit 7”, which I will discuss below.

Unit 4-Transformative and Servant Leadership

In having to synthesize transformational and servant leadership, I have been deeply impacted in my practice of leadership in the context of Christian ministry (Northouse, 2018, pp. 163-164; 227-228). I realized how drawn I am to transformational leadership, as this leadership model is more my natural style. However, it is a bit different from the style of leadership I observe in my context. In the past, my organization has had more “authoritarian” and/or “hierarchical” in its style of leadership, and some of that is style is still present today–this may be due to some cultural reasons, but also just organizational culture. However, the leadership in my organization has been making changes away from these styles, which I think is positive.  I recognized some of my coworkers have been used to a more “authoritarian” and/or “hierarchical” style of leadership, where the leader tells them what to do, rather than invites them to participate and/or empowers them. I tend to lead in an empowering way, that is inspirational, influential, supportive, but towards a shared vision and personal potential (Smith, Montagno, Kuzmenko, 2004, p. 80 & Northouse, 2018, pp.169-172) Learning this leadership model was very freeing for me, because at times I would question my leadership style and wonder if I was doing something wrong. However, I have been encouraged that this is how God made me and this is a legitimate way of leading. Additionally, I have learned that I need to be comfortable in my own skin, but also help others see the purpose behind why I am leading in certain ways. I recognize and now understand why some of my staff have had minor frustrations and/or misunderstandings with my leadership style at times.

In regards to servant leadership this style of leadership has challenged me to realize two things: 1) I still carry hurt from some past working relationships, so I struggle to serve others in this way 2) that this leadership style only works if there is “follower receptivity” (Northouse, 2018 p. 234). I personally struggle with the extent of this leadership model in regards to how far it goes to serve the needs of followers. In the past this has been my bent in leadership, but unfortunately I felt like some followers took advantage of that and as a result I have felt “walked over” and even burnt out at times. Reading through the leadership theory description it was really helpful to see that this theory only works when there is “follower receptivity”, which in looking back on the situations I realized it was not the case (Northouse, 2018 p. 234). Another thought I have had when studying this leadership model is wondering if it only works on “healthy people?” When I say “healthy”, I mean people who are in a relatively healthy place emotionally, relationally, spiritually and physically.

In the end, I think it is imperative for servant leadership to be combined with transformational leadership, being a “Transformational Servant Leader” (TSL). This leadership model combination has the empowerment, vision and big goals and the healing and individual care needed (Northouse, 2018, pp. 192; 235-236). In certain situations or contexts I think servant leadership alone, could lead to organizations being “stuck” and meeting the needs of their employees, but their influence in society being hindered. Also transformational leadership alone could lead to an “elitist” form of leadership, that does not accept or develop people who are perhaps “less charismatic”, but still are gifted and/or could grow as leaders (Northouse, 2018, pp. 181-182).

Unit 7-Leadership Ethics

Unit 7 really impacted me to think through my character and motivations behind my actions and decisions as a leader. In doing the readings for this unit, there were two current situations, where I was analyzing what the “right” thing to do was. Through going through this unit and praying, God made it clear to me the way forward. This unit really pushed me to consider doing the right thing, even though it was not the easy way and required a lot of extra work. Additionally, I was challenged to realize the responsibility of ethical leadership through an analogy of “ripple effects”; in how a leader’s character through thoughts and actions will influence others, sometimes more than they realize. It was sobering, but necessary to think through the responsibility leaders carry to lead by example and “set the tone” of the organization (Van Buren, 2013).

 

“Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bear bad fruit…and man is his own gardener”

-James Lane Allen (Watson, 1951, pp. 170-172)

 

References

Northouse, P. G. (2018). Leadership: theory and practice (8th ed.). Thousand Oaks: Sage Publications.

Smith, B.N., Montagno, R.V. and Kuzmenko, T.N. (2004). Transformational and servant leadership: Content and contextual comparisons. Journal of Leadership and Organizational Studies 10(4), 80-92.

Van Buren, J. A. [Building Capacity]. (2013, March 29). What is Ethical Leadership? [Video File]. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ks2QGoIq5nA

Watson, L.E. (1951). Light from Many Lamps. New York: Simon and Schuster.

Activity 2-Canada Post Analysis

According to Malgeri (2010), “Foresight is defined as the ability to develop and maintain a forward-looking perspective and to anticipate emerging opportunities and problems by continually scanning the environment for trends and new developments” (p. 39).

I would like to briefly analyze how Canada Post has used foresight based on a discussion paper posted on the Government of Canada’s website and answer the questions from Activity 2:

How has Canada Post responded to technological changes?

I think given the rapid changes they have undergone, due to technological advancement speeds, that Canada Post has responded well to some degree. They have thoroughly analyzed where and how they can cut costs. Some of those ways they planned to take action in 2013, was through their “Five-point Action Plan”, which I summarized below:

  1.  Converting to community mailboxes- to make door-to-door mail delivery cheaper. So far, 830 000 addresses have been converted to community mailboxes.
  2. Tiered pricing that raised the cost of a single stamp or was cheaper if purchased in volume.
  3. Opening more franchise postal services, which cost less than corporate post offices. Opened 73 new postal outlets across the country, in convenient locations and offering extended hours.
  4. Streamlining operations: more efficient mail and parcels flow to customers.
  5. Addressing cost of labour through attrition and collective bargaining. (Bertrand et al., 2016, p. 14).

What are some positive and negative consequences of these changes?

Positive consequences of the rapid digital changes in the 21st century are that people can communicate more easily now through their smart phones, email, social media, messaging apps, etc (Bertrand et al., 2016, p. 1). Bertrand et al. (2016) indicated, “Public opinion research focus groups indicate that even though Canadians recognize the ongoing shift to digital communications, they are emotionally attached to mail: personal letters, parcels from loved ones, greeting and holiday related cards are viewed with much affection, even nostalgia” (p. 2). Though Canadians still hold sentimental value to getting mail/parcels and to Canada Post as a service, the negative consequences of digital changes and increased communication are undeniable. Canada Post’s revenue is suffering due to consistent decline in the use of mail.

Canada Post, in seeing their decline in revenues on mail took to making parcels a strategic focus, since the online shopping world was growing, however in this 2016 report Bertrand et al. (2016) stated, “Unfortunately, despite an almost 10 per cent growth in parcel volumes at Canada Post in 2015 over the previous year, the longer term revenue growth in parcels may not be sustainable or enough to offset future declines in letter revenues” (p. 3).

Would you have done anything differently?

I admire Canada post for their active and action-orientated response to saving money and cutting cost, due to the present realities they were facing. However, one thing I observe is that in their first attempt in 2013, with the “Five-point Action Plan”, they were only applying “technical changes”, in order to “keep their head above water” for a short time. However, what Canada Post really needs is to recognize they are in a time where they need to face and tackle “adaptive challenges” (Northouse, 2016, p. 262 & Bertrand et al., 2016, p. 14). Northouse (2016) states,

Adaptive challenges are problems that are not clear-cut or easy to identify. They cannot be solved by the leader’s authority or expertise, or through the normal ways of doing things in the organization. Adaptive challenges require that leaders encourage others to define challenging situations and implement solutions…adaptive challenges are difficult because they usually require changes in people’s priorities, beliefs, roles and values. (p. 262).

The changes they previously applied did not seem to maintain as Malgeri (2010) stated, a “forward-looking perspective” in terms of “anticipating emerging opportunities” (p. 39). They had a forward-looking perspective on the problems, but less of an emphasis on looking for the opportunities (Malgeri, 2010, p. 39).

However, now Canada Post seems to be more forward looking. According to their recent 2016 analysis, they have been looking more at potential opportunities and likely realizing they are encountering “adaptive challenges”, rather than basic cost-cutting, as in their first “5 Point Plan” (Northouse, 2016, pp 261-262 & Bertrand et al., 2016, p. 14). One of those forward looking and opportunistic ideas is interestingly the “Distribution of Marijuana” (Bertrand et al., 2016, pp. 74-75).

Personally, in being “forward thinking”, what I would have done differently was do targeted research on pre-teens and teenagers and their view of Canada Post, mail and parcels. Pre-teens and teenagers have grow up immersed in technology and I think they are less sentimental about mail and parcels. I do not think Canada Post can rely on it’s “sentimentality” to see them through more than 10 more years. Unless they adapt and adapt fast, they will be sadly irrelevant to a generation that I do not think values the use of mail.

There is potential for rapid and drastic adaptation, but in the words of Bertrand et al. (2016):

Canada post is at a crossroads. Canada Post’s costs are growing faster than its revenues. Digitalization is moving its business from letters to parcels…Under the status quo, Canada Post will not be financially self-sustainable going forward. The Corporation’s business model, which reflects the 20th century, needs to be realigned with the rapidly changing technological realities and the changing postal usage of Canadians (p 8). 

 

References

Bertrand, F., Hoeg, K.T., Hopson, J. & Mclaughlin, M, Canada Post in the Digital Age (2016, September). Task Force for the Canada Post Corporation Review. Retrieved from https://www.tpsgc-pwgsc.gc.ca/examendepostescanada-canadapostreview/documents/EPC-CPR_rpt-eng.pdf

Malgeri, J. (2010, Winter). Organizational foresight and stewardship. The Public Manager, 39(4), 39-42.

Northouse, P.G. (2018). Leadership: theory and practice (8th ed.). Thousand Oaks: Sage Publications.

RE to Chris: Light from Many Lamps

Thanks Chris for your post about James Gordon Gilkey’s excerpt in Light from Many Lamps. I really related to the beginning when you posed the most commonly used phrases in modern society of “How are you?” and “I’m so busy!”

As of late, I do not like telling people I am busy. I used to say it all the time, but I think it was out of a sense of “self-importance” or a “symbol of status”, as Chris referenced from the author Pinkser (2017).

One thing I have notice in working with students in Christian ministry, was in consistently saying how busy I was, I actually put a barrier between myself and the students. They found me less approachable and had internal thoughts of “I do not want to bother her” and/or “she does not have time to talk to me.” Unfortunately, I think because of coming across as so busy, I may have made students feel like they were “less important” than me. Currently, I try to avoid saying “I’m busy”, so I do not unintentionally make people feel undervalued by subconsciously suggesting “I’m too busy for you.”

Chris, I appreciated your question:

Are there some specific habits you have put in place in your life to combat the tyranny of busyness?

To answer, some habits I place in my life are (although, since starting this part-time MA, while still doing ministry, I have found these harder to apply):

  • Aiming to spend regular time with God in reflection, listening to music, going for nature walks, prayer and reading the Bible. I find this practice of connecting with God daily to help me slow down and gain perspective, especially in the hectic times.
  • Taking time out every week for regular date nights with my husband and protecting those times. Having time to enjoy each other, no matter how busy our lives are, is important to remain healthy in our relationship.
  • Aiming to have a weekly “Sabbath”: Sabbath” is the concept of taking one day a week to truly rest from work and things we find laborious. Instead of work, we rest and/or do things we love and enjoy to be rejuvenated. I believe God designed human beings to need to take at least one day of rest per week, in order to function their best and keep in good health.
  •  I try to keep a certain amount of “flex time” in my schedule and aim not to book my schedule with back-to-back meetings, so that I do not feel “frantic” by the end of the day.
  • I work in campus ministry, so I function on looking at my year in “semesters.” With that in mind, I aim to go on a spiritual retreat centre, once a semester, for about 3-4 days to rest, spend time with God, refocus and at times ask for direction, clarity and guidance.

I recognized through making this list, that in the past and currently when I feel stressed or extra busy, some of the first things to go from this list is that essential time with God or Sabbath rest. These two are such important practices for continually thriving in my relationship with God and in life, especially since they are times where I usually gain the most refreshment and energy.

Monica

 

References

Pinsker, J. (2017, March 1). ‘Ugh, I’m So Busy’: A Status Symbol for Our Time. The Atlantic. Retrieved from https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2017/03/busyness-status-symbol/518178/

Watson, L.E. (1951). Light from Many Lamps. New York: Simon and Schuster.

RE to Dawn: Light from Many Lamps

Dawn, than you for your well written post on Frederic Loomis’ reflection. I found this reading and the quote really impactful. Loomis states,

“The best medicine is to stop thinking about yourself, and start thinking about other people” (Watson, 1951, p. 223).

DawnES (2018) stated in summary of Loomis’ reflection,

“In reflection on his deathbed, Dr. Frederick Loomis determined that though we may struggle through life and in death, there is little fruit that comes from being obsessed with our own woes [Blog post]. Rather, it is to our benefit and development  to “stop thinking about [our]selves, and start thinking about other people. [We] can lighten our load by doing something for someone else” (Watson, 1951, p. 224 as quoted by DawnES, 2018 [Blog post] ).

Personally, I have seen firsthand and experience the consequences of how the prevalent cultural mantra of “you do you”, “whatever makes you happy” or “find yourself” can build people into thinking they are the “centres of the universe” and that “the world revolves around them.” When this belief gets taken to extremes and/or faces pressure of difficult circumstances, what oozes out is the belief that “others needs are not important” and people’s dignity and self-worth are affected negatively. When a leader behaves in this way, the cost is great on both them and those who they lead.

Loomis’ antidote is “to stop thinking about yourself, and start thinking about other people” (Watson, 1941, p. 223). Though I believe this is the beginning of change, the process is more complex and difficult. Additionally, it is a road that many people do not walk, even though they know it is the right thing to do.

I appreciate the question DawnES (2018) posed and would like to answer it by sharing what I think is most important; her question was:

“As a servant leader, what does this mean for me to focus on others with authentic love to facilitate forgiveness and healing in their lives” [Blog post]?

What comes to mind when DawnES (2018), mentioned “authentic love” is the phrase, “love God, love others”[Blog post]. This is a famous Christian paraphrase from Jesus’ great commandment. The greatest commandment is found in Mark 12:30-31 (New International Version) where Jesus states,

” “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” The second is this: “Love your neighbour as yourself, there is no commandment greater than these.”  “

Another way Jesus stated this commandment was in John 13:34-35 (English Standard Version):

“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.”

Personally, I think the truths in these statements from the Bible is the only complete antidote “To stop thinking about yourself, and start thinking about other people” (Watson, 1941, p. 224).  Loomis states bluntly, “snap out of it” and though this is the essential beginning of someone realizing something needs to change,  I think that the actual changing of a person to authentically and purely think of “others before themselves” is only when they have a greater perspective on the situation and only when the power for that change comes from an “outside source” (Watson, 1941, p. 224). I say this, not only because I have belief in the Christian faith, but because in pure reasoning; from both observation of the world and from personal experience, I see a broken world and the brokenness of my own soul. I know I am a flawed and limited human being. In me there is only so much love to give and the ability to love unconditionally is very difficult and additionally based upon history, family upbringing and my own ability to accept love that is in my life.

In regards to true authentic love, I have only experienced that kind of love when I have known an “outside source”, that is already perfect love, imparted to me. I cannot create that love in myself, just as I cannot create something that I do not have. I think all of us know deep down, that we do not have or give the kind of love that we wish we could, we know our own brokenness and our twisted motives. When we start “to snap out of it”, that is the beginning of either continuing to try and dig this love up in our lives for others, potentially at the detriment to our own well-being, or realize that there is a perfect love beyond us that we can know through relationship with Jesus (Watson, 1941, p. 224). Jesus contains and states a love that is capable of loving others in a healthy way; first, receiving and having God’s love through relationship with Jesus; second, through this love learning to love yourself with the right perspective; third, then “loving your neighbour as yourself.” Interestingly Jesus does not say in Mark 12:30-31 (New International version), “love you neighbour above yourself”, he says, love them “as yourself”, this is a healthy love, to think of others with having a healthy and whole view of how you are loved, your limitations, but also your infinite value to God and how your relationship with Him allows that love to outpour onto others.  Jesus’ love for others is pure, true and good; it is others centred, without deprecating one’s own dignity and has no limitations. The danger with applying Loomis’ antidote, without the right perspective or the right source of love is a self-deprecating love, which leaves you without dignity or value, and as a result leaves you feeling burnt out and used. This is not healthy love or “authentic love”.
I think with this healthy kind of love, that still puts others first, we can truly bring healing and forgiveness to those we lead.

Monica

 

References

DawnES. (2018, November 17). Unit 8-Light from many lamps. [Blog post]. Retrieved from https://create.twu.ca/leadinnovation/2018/11/17/unit-8-light-from-many-lamps/

Watson, L.E. (1951). Light from Many Lamps. New York: Simon and Schuster.

Activity 2-Unit 8

In taking the “Gender-Leader Implicit Association” test in Northouse Chapter 15 and reading through the Catalyst (2016) report for inclusion ideas I recognized that my profession of campus chaplaincy tends to be “female-dominated.” This is reflected in the greater amount of women on my staff team in comparison to men. Currently on the team I co-lead, we have 7 women and 2 men.

My “Gender-Leader Implicit Association” test score was negative, showing that I do not automatically associate favouring males in leadership. This is probably due to being a women who is particularly passionate about developing women in leadership, as well as being in a female-dominated team and profession. In the past, I likely would have been more towards a positive score, due to how I grew up, what I saw in church and society, and what I believed about myself as a woman.

Since my work place is evidently female-dominated, we tend to have a good culture of fostering recognition and a sense of belonging for women. However, there are some areas that could be further improved that the Catalyst report mentioned regarding how employees experience feeling included (Nugent et al., 2016, p. 2). Nugent et al. (2016) state when employees feel included when they experience, “A sense of uniqueness– that they are recognized and valued for their specific attributes and contributions” (p. 2).  One way this could be done in my workplace is the following:

  • Being intentional about publicly recognizing individuals for who they are, their unique gifting/skills, their accomplishments and a job well done.

My team is encouraging to some degree, but I have observed that encouragement does not come as naturally. I would like to create a “culture of encouragement” to help both the female and male team members feel unique, recognized and valued for who they are and their accomplishments/contributions to our team and ministry (Nugent et al., 2016, p. 2).

Nugent et al. (2016), in the Catalyst report mention another important element for inclusion to be experienced which is, “A sense of belonging–that they are welcomed and valued as part of their workgroups and among their colleagues” (p. 2). I see this applying in regards to the part-time moms on my team, as they sometimes struggle with feeling like a part of the team. One way I could apply this is:

  • Intentionally assisting the part-time moms on my team more by hearing out their needs and helping them keep a healthy involvement on the team.

The struggle with this I have found, is sometimes “over-accommodation” for the moms with kids leads to them being distant from the team and not really being or feeling involved. I want to find a way that is still accommodating for the moms, but does not take-away from team-dynamic and their sense of belonging. I want the part-time moms on our team to feel welcomed and valued on the team, as well as contributing and participating (Nugent et al., 2016, p. 2). I think this will ultimately help them feel more included (Nugent et al., 2016, p. 2).

Additionally, I have learned from supervising a mom coming back from maternity leave, how helpful it was to be very clear on what my expectations for her were, due to her reduced work hours, situations of day-care drop-off times, evening event conflicts, etc. I was very impressed and appreciated how this staff member told me directly that she felt that I was expecting the same things of her as the rest of the team.

I think she mostly felt this because a lot of the communication happened in the team setting and I lacked implicitly stating that for her, certain situations were “optional.” She found herself feeling stressed, thinking that I expected the same things from her as the other full-time staff. I learned from this and having this clarifying conversation one-on-one was very helpful. Since then, I have been careful to clearly state my expectations of her specifically.

 

References

Northouse, P.G. (2018). Leadership: theory and practice (8th ed.). Thousand Oaks: Sage Publications.

Nugent, J., Pollack, A. & Travis, D. (2016). The day to day experiences of workplace inclusion and exclusion. Retrieved from http://www.catalyst.org/system/files/the_day_to_day_experiences_of_workplace_inclusion_and_exclusion.pdf

Activity 1-External and Internal Barriers

In Case study 15.1, we are introduced to Lisa Weber (Northouse, 2018, p 417). Lisa has the following distinctions and attributes: high qualifications, quality work ethic, brings in notable profit, is a team player and is well-regarded by colleagues, supervisors and clients. (Northouse, 2018, p 417). On paper, there seem to be no barriers to Lisa’s growth in leadership and/or professionally (Northouse, 2018, pp. 417-418). However, because she is a woman there are two identifiable barriers, that are indicated in this case study.

In regards barriers, author Sheryl Sandberg speaks of them in her book Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead (Sandberg, 2013, Kindle edition, introduction, paragraph 17). Sandberg (2013) states:

In addition to external barriers erected by society, women are hindered by barriers that exist within ourselves. We hold ourselves back in ways both big and small, by lacking self confidence, by not raising our hands, and by pulling back when we should be leaning in. We internalize the negative messages we get throughout our lives–the messages that say it’s wrong to be outspoken, aggressive, more powerful than men (Kindle edition, introduction, paragraph 17).

The external and internal barriers observed in this case study are:

  • External barriers-Her boss (CEO, Michael Breyer) and her firm’s work culture has stereotypical views of women. Related to this is Michael’s fear of others’ opinion if he goes against the perceived societal and firm “norm” (Northouse, 2018, pp. 417-418).
  • Internal barriers-Lisa’s internal struggle of “trying to fit in” and conforming to what she thinks she should be like as a women. She also does not speak up and assert herself when she is due credit (Northouse, 2018, pp. 417-418).

External Barriers

In regards to the external barrier of her boss and the companies’ stereotypical bias, this is evident by her boss, Michael Breyer’s belittling comments of her in front of her peers and partners (Northouse, 2018, p 417). It is also clear in the way that peers and partners, who know her competence and seek her advice, do not stick up for her and publicly praise her. (Northouse, 2018, p 417). Privately, they admire her, as they visit her for advice, but publicly they feel “weird” about it, due to societal bias of women being seen as less valuable in their context. Lastly, this external barrier is clear in the way her less competent male peers are being promoted to partner; but when she mentions it to Michael, he undermines her abilities by suggesting she cannot handle it and that clients and others would not accept it, due to never having had a female partner in the firm (Northouse, 2018, p 417).

This story illustrates a point from Kanter (1977), “not only are the decision makers influenced by the stereotypes that disadvantage women in the leadership role, but also they may succumb to homosocial reproduction, a tendency for a group to reproduce itself in its own image.”

Clearly in this company and in this business, there is Kanter’s (1977), “homosocial reproduction” as for 103 years they have never had a female partner and the decision maker, the CEO, Michael only promotes male leaders propitiating their biased norm (Northouse, 2018, p 417-418). Michael has no intention of changing this “norm” and no perceived understanding for the injustice of his attitude/behaviour and how this marginalizes Lisa (Northouse, 2018, p 417-418).

 Internal Barriers

Sandberg (2013) points out a phenomenon that has been widely researched since the 1970’s called “imposter syndrome” which originated from the work of Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Ament Imes in 1978 (Kindle edition, Chapter 2, paragraph 7). This phenomenon is also a struggle for men , however as Sandberg (2013) summarizes,

For women feeling like a fraud is a symptom of a greater problem. We consistently underestimate ourselves. Multiple studies in multiple industries show that women often judge their own performance as worse than it actually is, while men judge their own performance as better than it actually is (Kindle edition, Chapter 2, paragraph 8).

From case study 15.1, there is evidence of Lisa struggling with internal barriers. Being the only woman in the firm, has caused her to prefer to “be considered a team player and one of the boys” (Northouse, 2018, p 417). This behaviour exhibits Sandberg (2013) statement, “Young women internalize societal cues about what defines “appropriate behaviour and, in turn, silence themselves.” (Kindle edition, Chapter 1, paragraph 30) Additionally, Lisa does not openly protest the CEO, Michael tearing her down and she does not take due credit on behalf of all her private meetings where she assists peers and partners. Lisa’s behaviour exhibits what Northouse (2018) states, “Women are no less effective at leading than men, and women are no less committed to their jobs or motivated for leadership roles than men. However, women are less likely to self-promote and negotiate than men” (p. 409).

When Lisa does self-promote, by persistently making her case for partnership to Michael, this proves unfruitful; instead of pushing the matter further by filing a rightful lawsuit, she decides to leave and start her own firm (Northouse, 2018, p. 418).

This case study reveals what Margaret Atwood once stated, “We still think of a powerful man as a born leader and a powerful woman as an anomaly” (As quoted in Northouse, 2018, p. 404). Lisa, was an “anomaly”, an exception to the rule, but even with her shining example of female leadership, her presence still failed to change the overwhelming prejudice and bias towards women present in society, her firm and her CEO, Michael and her fellow colleagues.

Question:  Why do you think is it so hard for women in the workplace to be seen and/or accepted as powerful?

 

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References

Clance, P.R. and Imes S.A. “The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention.” Psychotherapy: Theory, Research and Practice 15,  no. 3 (1978): 241-47.

Kanter, R. (1977). Men and women of the corporation. New York, NY: Basic Books.

Northouse, P.G. (2018). Leadership: theory and practice (8th ed.). Thousand Oaks: Sage Publications.

Sandberg, S. (2013). Lean in: Women, work, and the will to lead. [Kindle version]. Retrieved from Amazon.ca.

Light from Many Lamps-“Living for the Day”

Sir William Osler stated, “Live for the day only, and for the day’s work…the chief worries of life arise from the foolish habit of looking before and after” (Watson, 1951, p. 214).

I agree that living for “the day only and the day’s work” is incredibly important in leadership (Watson, 1951, p. 214). There is a verse in the Bible, Matthew 6:34 that states something similar,

“Therefore, do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble” (ESV).

This verse brings me comfort and peace when my mind races ahead and worries about things I have no control over. Anxiety is something I am prone to, but lately have experienced a lot of freedom from it, thanks to God teaching me a lot through difficult circumstances. Occasionally, anxiety still rears its ugly head and that is usually when I am trying to “take control” of things again and not trusting God with something.

One thing I would disagree with Osler on is how far he takes this lesson, especially when he used the metaphor of the “ocean liner” with students at Yale (Watson, 1951, p. 215). Osler stated,

The way of life that I preach is a habit to be acquired gradually by long and steady repetition. It is the practice of living for the day only, and for the day’s work, living in “day-tight compartments.”…The chief worries of life arise from the foolish habit of looking before and after (Watson, 1951, p. 215).

Though I agree it is effective and wise to live for the “day only”, for both productivity and peace of mind; one thing I have discovered as a leader, is if you do not look ahead and plan accordingly, you suffer the consequences of poor planning (Watson, 1951, pp. 215). Especially in my context of student ministry, I have to be intentional with my time and plan an overall rough semester outline. This outline helps me to make the most of my time doing ministry, since the semesters are so short.

Going through ministry or any job, with no bigger aim, vision or clear path, will leave you wandering aimlessly and frustrated. Therefore, though I agree in part with Osler’s “way of life”, I would say it is also important to think ahead with vision, purpose and mission in order to make the most of the time you have in each day (Watson, 1951, pp. 215-216). This becomes especially important when you have either assignment and/or work deadlines, as losing that bigger perspective could be foolish and lead to unnecessary stress.

One final thought about Osler, stated by Watson (1951) is,

Though he himself is gone, his “way of life” remains a vital influence, helping people do their day’s work in confidence, without letting the mistakes of the past paralyze the efforts of today…without letting needless anxieties about the future waste their energies or destroy their peace of mind (p. 217).

What stand out to me is the statement, “without letting the mistakes of the past paralyze the efforts of today” (Watson, 1951, p. 217). However, to sharpen it, I would emphasize that “compartmentalizing”, which seemed to be Osler’s way as he often talked of “compartments” on the “ocean-liner”, will never help you deal with hard experiences that happened or mistakes you made (Watson, 1951, pp. 215-217). Eventually those difficulties from the past will catch up with you, “paralyze you” and then you have to deal with them (Watson, 1951, p. 217).

Additionally, sometimes the day will require us to focus on things from the past, because a past experience needs to be emotionally and/or spiritually processed. As a leader, processing emotion from past, present or future situations is not a waste of time; it is a way that we can help our “future selves” to not be “paralyzed” by trauma, fears and repercussions of the things we have faced in the past (Watson, 1951, pp. 217). Being a leader who is gaining freedom from past baggage, is the best and most effective way to lead, as it will help us lead better in the present and into the future.

Question: What do you think of Sir William Osler’s “way of life” on pp. 214-219 ? Do you fully agree? Disagree? 

Would love to hear your thoughts!

Monica

 

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References

Watson, L.E. (1951). Light from Many Lamps. New York: Simon and Schuster.

Women in Pastoral Leadership-Introducing “D”

A Snapshot of D’s Story

I had the privilege of interviewing “D” this last week. D is an associate pastor at a non-denominational church in Vancouver. It was wonderful getting to know her and hearing her story of how she became ordained as a minister.

D, started her career as a structural engineer and did consulting for 6.5 years. She was very involved in her church, but the idea of becoming a pastor never crossed her mind. D (November 8, 2018) stated, “I never thought it was possible and did not see examples of women pastors”(telephone interview). She observed women taking the role of “Children’s Pastor”, but she did not feel gifted in children’s ministry.

Over time she grew dissatisfied with her career in engineering and God was growing in her a burden and passion for the Church. She explored the possibility of pursuing pastoral ministry and asked her church denomination, pastors, friends, professors etc. what they thought. She discovered a whole range of answers and even faced a situation where a male friend of hers and herself met with an elder to request a pastoral reference for seminary. The elder later confirmed that the pastor would give a reference to the male friend, but not to D. When her male friend asked the elder why the pastor was not giving D a reference, the pastor had reportedly said, “She is a woman and it would be too hard for her” (D, telephone interview, November 8, 2018).

Subsequently, a lot of of conflict happened in her local church and she saw the consequences of an unhealthy pastor. This experience resulted in D distancing herself from her church and eventually changing churches. Additionally, with everything that happened in her church she experienced a “crisis of faith.” D (November 8, 2018) honestly stated, “I realized I couldn’t walk away from Jesus and if I can’t walk away from Jesus, than I can’t walk away from the Church” (telephone interview).

God eventually led her to pursue full-time ministry as a career and she started studying at Regent College full-time. She was not sure where in ministry she wanted to serve and was leaning towards non-profit or campus ministry, but the possibility of pastoring kept occurring to her. She had some deep reservations about pastoring, as she had seen and experienced the effects of an unhealthy pastor. She also recognized how difficult it would be as a woman and was still unsure where she landed theologically on it. Through studying at Regent, she took time to really explore her theological stance on the issue.

In the end, due to God affirming His calling on her life to be a pastor, others affirming and encouraging that gifting, and having a personal resolve to pursue pastoral ministry; she took a step of faith to become an “Associate Pastor” in a non-denominational church in Vancouver and was later ordained by them.

Meeting D online and hearing her story was very inspiring for me as a woman in Christian ministry. Though I work in a para-church organization, I feel a calling to do church planting eventually and also like D had ruled out pastoring, as it seemed too difficult. In the last six months, God has been bringing pastoring more to mind and so I am not sure if He is leading me in this direction, but lately I have not ruled it out, as I did previously.

Below I will summarize D’s responses to the questions posed in this assignment:

What is the greatest challenge you have faced or are facing as a woman in leadership?

D’s greatest challenge as a woman in pastoral leadership, was overcoming her own personal feelings of anxiety about her calling into ministry. As she had never heard or seen women being called into pastoral ministry, she lacked confidence. Also, since different Christian denominations hold different positions on women being ordained as pastors, she did not know if the church or other Christians would accept her. However, God’s call on on her life and the affirmation of others helped her overcome her own personal anxiety.

D said she has experienced microaggressions and two instances of direct opposition, however she found it surprising how little direct opposition she has encountered. She also stated she has a great church who supports her, so it is a safe place for her to live out her calling.

When she is amongst other ministers and pastors, there is a certain unknown as to what other male pastors think of her, as she is one of the very few female pastors. She mentioned at times she has been surprised by the amount of encouragement she has received from other male pastors. Surprisingly, the most direct oppositions she has received were from two other women, both American, but it also ended up leading to good conversations.

What is something that you do that helps you to meet or deal with this challenge?

When I asked D this question, her first response was, “I’ve gotten used to it” (D, telephone interview, November 8, 2018). I admire her resilience and strength in that statement. However, to be honest, the statement also saddened me to think that women have to continually face these kind of situations and just “deal with it” and continually overcome barriers.

She said that dealing with this challenge requires a lot of prayer and a focus on nurturing her own relationship with God. She also mentioned how talking to older women in ministry or women with more life experience is important; since they have fought these battles long before she has.

Lastly, she mentioned the process of her ordination was helpful in confirming her calling. She was officially ordained in the past year by her church and it really reaffirmed her sense of calling. She also felt it was special because it was the first time her church had ever ordained anyone!

Do you have any other advice or encouragement for women in leadership?

D’s advice for women in ministry leadership was the following:

  • Explore and figure out your own theological position on women in the church/ministry and the basis for it in the Bible.
  • Seek the support of others who are like you, so you do not feel alone–D went and found other women in Vancouver who were pastoring and created a support group.
  • Be active in building a support system/network–mentors, friends, other people building you up and pouring into you.

Personally, I went away from D’s story feeling both inspired and saddened. Inspired by D and her resilience and how she followed God’s call. However, I was saddened to hear some of the stories and instances of prejudice and opposition she faced; just because she was a woman and pursuing God’s calling for her life.

Christians are resolved to follow Jesus in all we do and so here is my question to Christians about women in the church:

Is the mission of Jesus, to “keep women in their place” in church and God’s mission? Or could we be limiting God’s mission, by limiting women?

Every instance I saw of Jesus in scripture, in the setting of a patriarchal society, showed that He loved, empowered and gave women a voice. He bestowed dignity and authority on women in incredible ways, making Mary Magdalene the first evangelist, meaning that she was the first preacher of the gospel. Jesus appeared to her first, after he was crucified and came back to life, and told her to go tell the disciples that he was risen from the dead; to go tell them the good news! This is one of many instances, where Jesus gave women authority, leadership and a voice. In a deeply patriarchal society, Jesus brought a new way, so now in the new freedoms and rights women in the 21st century have, is this the church’s attempt to be counter-cultural by keeping women in certain roles or is this Biblical?

My suggestion for others and my personal aim for my “Capstone Project” is to do research of experiences of women in ministry/church and see if there is any damage being done and if so, how extensive is it? Not just damage to women, but damage to the mission of the church.

Are we hindering the mission of the church by limiting God’s work in women’s lives?

 

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References

“D”. (2018, November 8). Telephone interview.

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